I have an odd predicament. I don’t blame you if you can’t give me advice. I have no problem speaking to women. I, on normal occasions, have confidence oozing out my pores. The local women tend to like me considering young white guys are a small commodity in Brownsville, Texas. But, there is one thing holding me back from having a relationship with a girl. I am not, exactly, packing heat downstairs if you know what I mean. I probably got some ‘small dick disease’ or something. Sorry, if I’m a little crude.(no pun intended) It really holds me back. I was hoping you could advise me on how to overcome this situation of mine.
Considering the levels of concern and anxiety penises cause men, it’s no real wonder that there are times it seems as though our world revolves around it. Every male out there has had some sort of concern or worry about theirs, especially as it compares to other men’s. Whether it’s a case of circumcised versus uncut, size, shape, curvature… everybody worries that they’re deviating from the mean in some way, shape or form.
It shouldn’t come as a surprise to anyone that penis size can be a matter of some concern to men; virility is not only equated with perceived sexual desirability (more on this in a second) but also a man’s masculinity and self-worth. And surprisingly enough, it’s not just worrying that it’s too small. There are a number of people who have an above-average size penis that worry that they look freakish or abnormal, while all their friends tell them to shut up because now they’re just bragging.
Concern about size is strictly cultural, by the way. In ancient Greece and Renaissance-era Europe, being uncut and on the smaller side was considered the ideal; being larger or circumcised was considered to be comically grotesque.
Here’s the hard (ha!) facts: most guys underestimate themselves and assume they’re smaller than average. The average penis length is 5.1 inches erect when measured from the base and approximately 1.5 inches in diameter. And contrary to the idea that larger is better, penis length doesn’t correspond with female satisfaction; girth is far more connected to sexual stimulation, since most of the important nerve endings for a woman are concentrated in the front. The longer a penis is, the better the odds that you’re going to end up bumping up against her cervix, which is not terribly pleasant for everybody involved.
Unless you have a micro-penis (that is, 2 inches or smaller but otherwise normally formed), you really shouldn’t concern yourself with regards to your size. Women’s vaginas come in different sizes as well; what can feel small to one woman will feel quite pleasantly full to another. The Kama Sutra, in fact, classifies women and men according to the sizes of their yoni and lingams respectively and while the Bull Man may impress the dudes in the shower, he’s going to have a hard time pleasing the Deer woman.
Will you find women who will judge you on your penis size? Yes, possibly. Some women (and gay men) are size queens; nothing you can do about it besides realize that if she’s willing to overlook the rest of your good attributes for something that’s ultimately superficial, you’re better off without her anyway.
As tempting as it may be to look into trying to “fix” this non-problem, you shouldn’t. There aren’t any reliable ways of increasing one’s penis size; the only surgery out there involves severing the ligaments that attach the penis to the abdomen which will give some (flaccid) length but compromise your ability to achieve erections. The pills don’t work, the weights are just going to cause tearing and strain and you’ll be out of money AND having to have awkward conversations with the doctors in the ER. And you don’t want that.
Beyond getting over any issues this may be causing with your self-esteem, I recommend getting good at foreplay. As long as you have fingers, a tongue and a can-do attitude, you aren’t going to have any problems pleasing a woman regardless of your size, and that will serve you in better stead than just being hung like a bull moose and not having any idea of what you’re doing besides “tab A into slot B, repeat”.
Plus, think of this as a bonus: smaller penises makes oral sex easier.