Doctor,
I have an odd predicament. I don’t blame you if you can’t give me advice. I have no problem speaking to women. I, on normal occasions, have confidence oozing out my pores. The local women tend to like me considering young white guys are a small commodity in Brownsville, Texas. But, there is one thing holding me back from having a relationship with a girl. I am not, exactly, packing heat downstairs if you know what I mean. I probably got some ‘small dick disease’ or something. Sorry, if I’m a little crude.(no pun intended) It really holds me back. I was hoping you could advise me on how to overcome this situation of mine.
Thanks,
Short Stop
Considering the levels of concern and anxiety penises cause men, it’s no real wonder that there are times it seems as though our world revolves around it. Every male out there has had some sort of concern or worry about theirs, especially as it compares to other men’s. Whether it’s a case of circumcised versus uncut, size, shape, curvature… everybody worries that they’re deviating from the mean in some way, shape or form.
It shouldn’t come as a surprise to anyone that penis size can be a matter of some concern to men; virility is not only equated with perceived sexual desirability (more on this in a second) but also a man’s masculinity and self-worth. And surprisingly enough, it’s not just worrying that it’s too small. There are a number of people who have an above-average size penis that worry that they look freakish or abnormal, while all their friends tell them to shut up because now they’re just bragging.
Concern about size is strictly cultural, by the way. In ancient Greece and Renaissance-era Europe, being uncut and on the smaller side was considered the ideal; being larger or circumcised was considered to be comically grotesque.
Here’s the hard (ha!) facts: most guys underestimate themselves and assume they’re smaller than average. The average penis length is 5.1 inches erect when measured from the base and approximately 1.5 inches in diameter. And contrary to the idea that larger is better, penis length doesn’t correspond with female satisfaction; girth is far more connected to sexual stimulation, since most of the important nerve endings for a woman are concentrated in the front. The longer a penis is, the better the odds that you’re going to end up bumping up against her cervix, which is not terribly pleasant for everybody involved.
Unless you have a micro-penis (that is, 2 inches or smaller but otherwise normally formed), you really shouldn’t concern yourself with regards to your size. Women’s vaginas come in different sizes as well; what can feel small to one woman will feel quite pleasantly full to another. The Kama Sutra, in fact, classifies women and men according to the sizes of their yoni and lingams respectively and while the Bull Man may impress the dudes in the shower, he’s going to have a hard time pleasing the Deer woman.
Will you find women who will judge you on your penis size? Yes, possibly. Some women (and gay men) are size queens; nothing you can do about it besides realize that if she’s willing to overlook the rest of your good attributes for something that’s ultimately superficial, you’re better off without her anyway.
As tempting as it may be to look into trying to “fix” this non-problem, you shouldn’t. There aren’t any reliable ways of increasing one’s penis size; the only surgery out there involves severing the ligaments that attach the penis to the abdomen which will give some (flaccid) length but compromise your ability to achieve erections. The pills don’t work, the weights are just going to cause tearing and strain and you’ll be out of money AND having to have awkward conversations with the doctors in the ER. And you don’t want that.
Beyond getting over any issues this may be causing with your self-esteem, I recommend getting good at foreplay. As long as you have fingers, a tongue and a can-do attitude, you aren’t going to have any problems pleasing a woman regardless of your size, and that will serve you in better stead than just being hung like a bull moose and not having any idea of what you’re doing besides “tab A into slot B, repeat”.
Plus, think of this as a bonus: smaller penises makes oral sex easier.
Good luck.
I've found that for most women. It's what you can do with your hands that matters more.
Ideally, Size matters. but it wont STOP anything
Coming from a woman, while bigger is theoretically better, it really is how you use it that counts. In my experience, the bigger the penis, the bigger the ego and less likely he is to care about pleasing the girl. I've been with the big guy jock with his six-pack. Trust me, I'd rather have a smaller guy than someone that winks at himself every time he passes by a mirror…I'd go with Dr. Nerdlove's suggestion. Get good at foreplay. No girl is going to think twice about how big you are if she's already well-pleased
Tony's right lol. Especially since a lot of women can't achieve orgasm through penetration alone.
Enthusiasm > penis size
NEVER date this type of woman if you have an average sized penis. Size means more to some women than others. http://knobslobbingfeminism.com/blog/?p=825#comme…
Well my genetics did not bless me much, but I'm big enough. It's taken me years to come to terms with that, but in the end what can you do? Gotta work with what you're given. For other guys like me the Doctor and the ladies are spot on. Foreplay. Learn it. Get good at it. Oh and the Doc's right. My ex loved my size when it came to oral sex. Nobody likes it when gag reflexes are hit.
The hottest attribute a man can bring to the bedroom? Generosity. If you are a generous lover, enthusiastic with your tongue and invested in giving your lady a quakingly orgasmic experience, she will not care about size. I've had a lot of fun, and I can tell you technique trumps equipment every time.
There are SOOOOOOO many ways to please a woman. That's part of what makes them so beautiful. There is so much info out there (check out courses by Gabrielle Moore) so many instructional books, guides, and other things. There are so many ways to be a great lover its unbelievable. Robert Greene wrote a book on the 33 types of seduction, Marry your creativity with your passion – learn all the write biological geography and how to manipulate it – there are so many ways – and be an artist.
I've learned in everything I've decided to master – its always the right combination of art and science. You need both but if you can master both greatness is yours. With all the things you can to pleasure a woman – a big schlong isn't that big a deal.
If a woman can only be pleased with a horse cock she probably lacks the creativity and passion to even appreciate what you will be able to bring to the table. If it's some beautiful 1 week fling where you just tear off each others clothes and go at it – you won't notice. If it gets down to actually needing to have a conversation and speak to each other – an animal sex type of fling will get tired very very fast. it has its place, don't get me wrong – great sex is like two actors meshing together; it takes timing, nuance, creativity…….
If her one requirement is fill me like a flagpole – she will end up boring you to tears.
On a tangent – I know every man is afraid of how he measures up but sometimes it helps to turn the tables. How can you be a great lover if the woman you're with doesn't even really do it for you?
Sorry if I went off on a needless and completely off-topic rant
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Potentially obvious advice: date women who don't have a lot of experience with other guys. No experience = no comparisons. Even if you date someone who's been around the block before, get good at making HER feel good (with fingers, tongue, whatever). Be her "first" in other ways – first orgasm during sex, first cunnilingus, first guy who actually gives a damn whether she comes or not, first guy who doesn't laugh at her when she admits her bondage fetish – and size REALLY won't matter to her.
Most of the women who have the dick size preferences for a larger guy get it from media,porn and culture….period end of f-n story.Socially enginerring…and im sick of how u chix use that ‘its how you use it” crap as well.Hey why don’t you ladies learn how to use your bodies…take a hike hypocrites.