I have a problem with grudges. More specifically: I have a hard time with letting go of that angry, frustrated feeling that comes when you feel as though somebody’s wronged you. Oh, I’ll talk a good game about not being angry. I’ll be civil in public. I don’t make pointed inquiries about them to mutual friends, I’ll…
Archives for August 2013
Ask Dr. NerdLove: Schrödinger’s Come-On
Dear Dr. Nerdlove, I’m a nerd of the female persuasion, with a loving and nerdly partner whom I’m about to marry. Things are great with him; our relationship is the best thing that ever happened to me. However, our romance grew from an existing friendship, and he is the first and only person I’ve ever…
Are You Wasting Your Time With Online Dating?
I’m a big believer in efficiency when it comes to dating. Most people are… in theory, at least. In practice, however, we have these tendencies to expend a lot of our time and energy on aspects of dating which don’t bring an equivalent level of return for your investment. They’re time sinks that slow you down…
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Nerd Role Models: The Alpha Geek
We return to the Nerd Role Model series, where we examine popular characters from geek culture and deconstruct just what makes them so appealing to others… and what you can learn from them. This week, we’re looking into issues of “identity“. All too often, we unconsciously limit ourselves with self-imposed labels. We assume that our…
Ask Dr. NerdLove: Looking For Love (In Several Wrong Places)
Hey Doctor NerdLove, I recently came upon your site and I dig it. It’s pretty cool that there’s somewhere that the geeks and nerds have to learn the stuff we were too busy doing nerdy stuff to learn the normal way. I’ve got a question for you: I’m a pretty serious geek and I live…
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Unlearning Helplessness
One of the hardest things to learn is how to get back on your feet when you’ve been knocked on your ass. Especially when it happens over and over again. In fact, constant failure and crushing disappointment are two of the biggest demotivating factors you can find in life. When you’ve been hurt enough times, suffered…