Dear Dr. NerdLove, My boyfriend and I have been together several years and we’ve experimented in lots of things sexually as he was more experienced than I was. I really want to do some of the things he has done, such as threesomes with guys and girls, but he doesn’t want to since we are in a…
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How To Make Friends (When You’re Out of College)
Today I want to talk about a topic that’s come up before in my column over at Kotaku – something that a lot of people have issues with. So stop me if this sounds familiar. You have a tight group of friends. Maybe you were the tightest of bros when you were in college. Maybe you’ve…
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Defining A Modern Masculinity
I spend a lot of time thinking about masculinity and what it means to be a man. It’s a natural consequence of the job, to be honest; a lot of dating is caught up in the ideas of traditional gender roles, of the man as aggressor and female as receiver, of male and female sexual…
How Badly Do You Want It?
Peter O’Toole died yesterday. He was one of my favorite actors; no matter what old shit you handed him, he would act the ever-living FUCK out of it. High Spirits? OK, it’ll be a giant pile of crap, but Peter O’Toole will be the best part of it because he didn’t give a damn because…
When Masculinity Fails Men
It’s been an interesting week for talking about masculinity. To start with, ABC’s 20/20 aired a story about the Manosphere and the Men’s Rights Movement (which, ironically enough seems to have touched off a weird Jay-Z/Nas-esque feud between two leading voices of the MRM). The Daily Beast provided a thoughtful, if somewhat flawed, report on the…
How To Be Happy
“Count No Man Happy Until He Is Dead” – Solon Happiness sometimes seems to be the most elusive part of our lives. It always seems as though it’s just out of reach and when we do achieve it, it proves to be all too fleeting and short-lived. We like to think that continual happiness is…