Recently, we’ve been talking about toxic masculinity and all of the ways that it damages men on the individual level and society on the whole. One of the enduring questions is: so what do we do about it. Part of the way we start end the damage that toxic masculinity does and help heal some…
Sex
The Incel Phenomenon: Fixing The Wrong Sexual Crisis
I see we’re not done talking about incels. After Alek Minassian’s deadly attack on innocents in Toronto, scores of people decided to share their hot takes about how to “handle” the incel problem. Of course: like as not, the “problem” they focused on was that incels were angry virgins instead of the hate and misogyny…
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The Trouble With Incels
When Alek Minnasian drove his van into groups of pedestrians, the world went looking for answers. A post on his personal Facebook page – one where Minnassian referred to incels, the Incel Rebellion and hailing “Supreme Gentleman Elliot Roger – seemed almost too perfect. After all, 4chan boards like /pol/ have a long history of…
Episode #74 – How To Escape The Friend Zone
The question of “how do I get out of The Friend Zone” is among the top Google searches out there when it comes to relationship advice. The idea of the Friend Zone as a sort of dating Stalag-17 has driven more people into the Pick Up and Red Pill community than almost any other topic. …
POST MORTEM: Am I A Cheater or a Victim?
(Doctor’s Note: This letter involves discussion of sexual assault.) Every once in a while, I get a letter that requires more than the standard Ask Dr. NerdLove. Sometimes a reader has a situation that requires some in-depth examination to determine just what went wrong, where, how, and what could be done about it. These are what…
Why Women Say “Yes” To Sex
One of the things that a lot of people get wrong about sex and sexual attraction is that it’s not about arousal. After all, as anyone who’s gone through puberty can tell you, arousal can happen to anyone at almost any time. Nor is it about attraction or hitting the right numbers on the checklist. Sex…