Popularity 101 (How To Be Awesome)

One of the odder side-effects of growing up as a geek or a nerd is that we frequently develop an almost atavistic response to popularity. Popularity is for the “cool kids”, the jocks and the Queen Bees who made our lives hell growing up. As a result: we tend to look askance at people who’re […]

What Men Should Have Learned in Sex Ed

One of the most common questions – according to my incoming Google searches, anyway – that guys seem to have is about casual sex: how to get it, why don’t women like it as much as they do, etc. As I’ve said many times, the reason why women aren’t as into casual sex as men […]

Why You Should Fake It ‘Til You Make It

Last week I told you that authenticity was important. This week, I’m going to tell you why it’s good to lie. And no, this isn’t a contradiction in terms. Stick with me here, this will all make sense in a second. One of the things I regularly advocate, especially when you’re just starting to work […]

5 Simple Ways To Improve Your Social Skills Quickly

One of the factors that I think people tend to ignore when it comes to the idea of social skills is the world “skill”. If you want to get better at dating, you have to treat social skills like any other skill – and that means that you only improve with practice. The problem is that […]

How To Make Small Talk (For People Who Hate Small Talk)

Small talk. Just the words fill people with existential dread. It conjures up images of being stuck at a party or networking event and getting caught in the awkward conversation loop where nobody can think of anything to say. It’s the worst part of any first date. It is 100% pure undiluted cringe in social […]