Ask Dr. NerdLove: How Do I Start Dating Again?

Hi Doc: I am much older than your typical reader but I really like the advice you give. I am getting back into dating at 51 and I really think I don’t know what the fuck I am doing. I was married for 13 years with him for 15. I took a while to get […]

Ask Dr. NerdLove: Am I Too Vanilla?

Dear Dr. NerdLove, Greetings. I’m a 24 year old male from an expat family who moved to the Bay Area about three years ago from SE Asia and am now attending college as an undergrad. American dating has mostly been an exercise in frustration for me, with success sprinkled here and there in the form […]

Ask Dr. NerdLove: What’s the Difference Between Flirting and Just Being Friendly?

Hi Dr. NerdLove, I recently discovered your site and first of all want to say – where have you been my entire (romantic) life?? Reading through your archive has already given me insights into the mechanics of flirting and bonding rituals that have mystified me for years – and I was pleased to see that […]

Ask Dr. NerdLove: Am I Being A Nice Guy(TM)?

Doc I’m worried I may have overstepped, I’m not the most socially skilled guy in the world and while I keep in decent shape I’m not going to be on the cover of GQ any time soon. The few relationships I’ve had were the result of the woman metaphorically clubbing me over the head and […]

Ask Dr. NerdLove: My Boyfriend Is Poly… And I’m Not

Dear Doc, I am 10 months into a relationship with an absolutely wonderful guy. We are compatible on nearly every level, the chemistry between us is amazing, he loves my kids from a previous marriage, and we’ve been discussing the possibility of getting married. The problem is that he’s polyamorous and I’m not. He was […]