Ask Dr. NerdLove: Why Do I Want Other People?

Ask Dr. NerdLove

Hey Dr., First, I’d like to say thanks. My boyfriend and I used your sex advice to save our relationship. We were long distance, and both inexperienced, and when we found your site, it made all the difference. So, thank you. Unfortunately, this sexual awakening has bred some new problems. I’d like to underscore the [...]

Ask Dr. NerdLove: Was I Too Toxic?

Ask Dr. NerdLove

Dear Doc This is unusual, because after reading all your blog posts about toxic relationships and such I’d like your insight on my previous toxic relationship. The twist : I think I was the toxic one. I was in a relationship with a girl for 3 years. She was madly in love with me in [...]

Ask Dr. NerdLove: How Do I Overhaul My Life?

Ask Dr. NerdLove

I need some direction doc. As of the beginning of last month I’ve been reading your website and finding myself amazed at the knowledge of dating that had remained in the dark to me until now. I understand that the concept of, “me,” is a fluid concept that is ever changing due to my true [...]

Ask Dr. NerdLove: Why Don’t I Want Sex?

Ask Dr. NerdLove

Hey Doc, I could use your help. I want to preface this by saying that, throughout the entirety of my childhood, my mother mentally abused me (even before she and my father divorced). She’d tear up my things purely because I liked them or my father’s side of the family got them for me, she’d [...]

Ask Dr. NerdLove: Could I Have Saved This Relationship?

Ask Dr. NerdLove

Hey Doc, Okay, so I have a situation where I got involved with a girl who’s last relationship was abusive (emotionally and physically). We’d both just moved into college (neither of us is a freshman), off campus, second night we hooked up. That night, when we talked, she seemed very interested in making it into [...]