Hey Doc, How do you know if/when to end a long-term relationship when everything is great except for the sex? How do you know when it’s irrational to keep trying to make it work? I’ve been dating my girlfriend Helen (not her real name) for 5 years, and lived with her for 3. We’re both…
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How Do I Find Casual Sex When I’m This Ugly?
Dear Dr. NerdLove: So I was wondering how does an ugly guy navigate things like wanting casual sex or a friends with benefits kind of arrangement? A lot of these interactions tend to prioritize looks, but what if you don’t have the looks? I don’t know any examples of ugly guys getting anything casual, it…
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Why Do I Attract All The Wrong People?
Dear Dr. NerdLove, I’m a 28-year-old straight white male. I am a virgin who’s had some minor success with online dating in the past though I still haven’t gotten a full-on relationship. I’m kind of socially isolated: I have plenty of acquaintances but no close friends that I hang out with. Anyway, after having taken…
Why Do I Keep Wanting My Toxic Ex?
Hi there Doc, First time writing. I like the way you think, so I’d like your take on a really annoying problem. To make a long story short, I met this guy online about 11-12 years ago in a chatroom. I was in the middle of a relationship with someone else at the time, it…
We Haven’t Had Sex in Months. Is My Husband Cheating On Me?
Dear Dr. NerdLove, My husband and I (he’s a straight man and I’m a bi woman) have been together for 25 years, and most of the time I see him as the best partner possible. Loving, kind, thoughtful, funny, and a wonderful father. Where things aren’t so great is our sex life. Up until last…
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Am I An Asshole If I Don’t Want to Settle for Someone In My “League”?
Dear Dr. NerdLove, My entire family is dead, and I’ve been living with my only close and reasonably well-off friend and her husband since losing my job and housing in the summer of 2020. I have severe anxiety and a number of physical health issues that all together mean I am not capable of working…
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