Body language is one of the most important aspects of attraction, but it’s one that we frequently end up neglecting. People continually underestimate the power of non-verbal communication by focusing strictly on surface aspects. Non-verbal communication isn’t just about making sure we’re not inadvertently telling people to go away or trying to read people’s minds.
No, the strength in body language and non-verbal communication is in how much it controls whether or not people are attracted to us. Most people are utterly unaware of the messages that they’re sending out or the impact that they have on others; it’s like having a conversation with a Markov chat bot tied to the horse_ebooks Twitter account. You might get the right message across by accident but half the time you’re sending out more nonsensical word salad than a Freshman English major who just discovered Allan Ginsberg.
If, on the other hand, you’re aware of just what messages you’re sending, then you’re able to control and direct the conversation… and even affect how people feel about you. There are surprisingly simple body language tricks that can make the difference between being forgettable and having a magnetic connection. Despite what many of us think, our brains are very bad at understanding why we feel the way we do. More often than not, our brains are just feeling the sensations given to us by our bodies and rationalize the reasons for feeling that way after the fact. When you’re conscious of this process, you can actually use body language to increase attraction and rapport. Keep this in mind; we’ll be returning to this idea a few times.