The 5 Things You Need To Do To Fix Your Life

"I DIDN'T DIE! YO JOE!"

There’s a truism when it comes to dating: the problems you have in your dating life are a reflection of the problems you have in your daily life. One of key aspects to the NerdLove approach to dating is that the key to having more success in your social life – whether it’s more sex, more […]

The (Positive) Value of Anger

"Anakin, we *told* you that signing up for the Jedi meant lifelong virginity..."

Valentine’s Day (or as I like to call it, the Day of Lover’s Obligation) is coming up this week, and if you’re single or otherwise just wanting to go out to eat, odds are you’re pretty frustrated. In fact, with the world seemingly contriving to constantly rub your nose in your singleness, odds are high that […]

How To Improve Your Willpower

Yes I was going to go there, come on...

Every year we go through a familiar ritual that culminates with a failure of willpower. Everyone makes promises about how they’re going to do something better in the new year and then promptly forgets all about it before the month is even over. In fact, right now, I’m watching the usual influx of New Years […]

What’s Really Wrong With Nice Guys – Entitlement, Nerds and Neanderthals

One thing you learn quickly in the dating advice business: some topics are more or less evergreen. And with the recent explosion on social media, it’s a good time to talk about one of my favorite topics: Nice Guys. After all, what better way could we ring in a new year than by looking at […]

Dump Your Toxic Friends

"Hey, bro! Got any shreds of self-esteem I can destroy today?"

There’s a quote attributed to Steven Winterburn that I like: “Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem, first make sure that you are not, in fact, just surrounded by assholes.” I find that many of the people I coach need to do this sort of examination, because we all tend to have a specific blindspot […]