It’s OK To Be Single


Friday was Valentine’s Day – or as I like to call it, “the Holy Day of Lover’s Obligation” , which of course is an absolutely miserable time to be alone. Whether you’re trying to co-opt it with a cutesy “Gal-entine’s day” or “Pal-entine’s day”, an anti-V-day party or just sitting at home hating the world, [...]

Defining A Modern Masculinity

Defining a Modern Masculinity

I spend a lot of time thinking about masculinity and what it means to be a man. It’s a natural consequence of the job, to be honest; a lot of dating is caught up in the ideas of traditional gender roles, of the man as aggressor and female as receiver, of male and female sexual [...]

5 Simple Ways To Jumpstart Your Life

5 Simple Ways to Jumpstart Your Life

One of the hardest things  about self-improvement, especially when you’re trying to fix your dating life, is feeling like you’re getting nowhere. Now to be fair, change takes time and more often than not, you’re trying to overcome the habits of a lifetime… but that’s cold comfort when you can see that new life waiting [...]

Do Looks Matter?

"Yes, get mad. Validate me by venting your frustration that you'll never get to fuck me."

In Playboy‘s 60th anniversary issue, Gilbert Gottfried penned an essay entitled “Women Say They Want A Guy With A Sense of Humor. They Don’t“.1  This lengthy screed goes on about the apparently pernicious myth that women want a sense of humor, how being funny never got him laid and gets interspersed with complaints about the [...]

How Badly Do You Want It?

"I'm sorry, were those your panties melting away? That happens so often..."

Peter O’Toole died yesterday. He was one of my favorite actors; no matter what old shit you handed him, he would act the ever-living FUCK out of it. High Spirits? OK, it’ll be a giant pile of crap, but Peter O’Toole will be the best part of it because he didn’t give a damn because [...]