Getting Space In A Relationship

"Sweetie, you don't need independency any more, you've got me!"

  There are certain phrases that chill the marrow when you hear them in the context of a relationship. “We need to talk,” of course, is the great grand-daddy of them all, along with “where do you see this going?”. But few phrases ring in our ears like a banshee’s wail foretelling the death of [...]

F*ck Like A Gentleman (Pt. 2)

Fuck Like A Gentleman (Pt. 2)

On Monday we talked about the paradoxes inherent in male sexuality and the culture that encourages men to have sex with women while simultaneously degrading them for being willing to do so, and my belief that it’s possible to get the sex you want while also not being an asshole. After all, speaking strictly from a position [...]

Ask Dr. NerdLove: Lost That Loving Feeling

Ask Dr. NerdLove

 Near Dr. NerdLove, I’m hoping you can help set my mind at ease. About 2 1/2 years ago I married a nerd. Your typical shy, anti-social, Star Trek watching, Star Wars toy collecting, can’t watch a movie unless it has a spaceship in it, plays video games for 10 hours straight nerd. I am not [...]

Learn From This: Her


I’ve been looking forward to Spike Jonze’s Her ever since it had been announced… if only because at the time it sounded like it was going to be another story about a Manic Pixie Dream Girl teaching a beleaguered, sensitive soul how to love and make his life better and I could always use more material to [...]

The Trouble With Online Dating


I’m going to tell you something that you already know: dating is a frustrating process of trial and error. For a lot of people, it’s a seemingly never-ending dance of missed connections, nights you’ll never get back again and wondering just what’s wrong with you and why everybody else seems to have it so much [...]