How To Deal With Jealousy

How To Deal With Jealousy

Back in the bad old days, I did a lot of things I regret out of jealousy. Pretty much from middle-school onwards, jealousy defined the majority of my waking life. Everywhere I looked, other people had what I thought I wanted in life. Watching happy couples would alternately make me feel lonely and almost sick with envy. […]

Ask Dr. NerdLove: How Do I Quit Being Insecure?

Ask Dr. NerdLove

Dear Dr. NerdLove, First off, thank you for your blog, I really enjoy it. Long time reader and you’re the only dating adviser I’ve come across that I agree with 100%. Now to why I’m writing: I have been dating my good friend for six months now, things with him are going really well. Not […]

Ask Dr. NerdLove: Are We Having Enough Sex?

Ask Dr. NerdLove

Doctor’s Note: I’m on vacation this week. But rather than not have any updates or re-run old articles, I’ll be posting extra “Ask Dr. NerdLove” columns. The regular publishing schedule will resume on June 16th. Doctor, please help us. My husband and I are about to reach our ten year anniversary and are in the […]

Getting Space In A Relationship

"Sweetie, you don't need independency any more, you've got me!"

  There are certain phrases that chill the marrow when you hear them in the context of a relationship. “We need to talk,” of course, is the great grand-daddy of them all, along with “where do you see this going?”. But few phrases ring in our ears like a banshee’s wail foretelling the death of […]

F*ck Like A Gentleman (Pt. 2)

Fuck Like A Gentleman (Pt. 2)

On Monday we talked about the paradoxes inherent in male sexuality and the culture that encourages men to have sex with women while simultaneously degrading them for being willing to do so, and my belief that it’s possible to get the sex you want while also not being an asshole. After all, speaking strictly from a position […]