Ask Dr. NerdLove: Best Frenemies

Ask Dr. NerdLove

Hi Doctor Nerdlove, I have something that I need to get off of my chest: I dislike one of my girlfriend’s guy friends. Let’s call him Q to protect the names of the innocent and not so innocent, as you say.  Whenever someone mentions Q my girlfriend lights up and says how much she loves [...]

Ask Dr. NerdLove: Trigger Warnings

Ask Dr. NerdLove

Once again, we have a fairly sensitive topic for Ask Dr. NerdLove. I’m going to warn everyone now: I’m going to ride hard on the comments section. The rule is simple: Don’t be an asshole about this. Otherwise I drop the hammer. Hello Dr. NerdLove! I have kind of a sensitive issue to talk about. [...]

The Power of Expressiveness

"Sure, I'd love to see you again..."

It’s an old cliche that 90% of communication is non-verbal, but it’s true. So much of how we communicate intent and meaning to others is through our actions and our body language rather than our words. What you say and how you say it are two different things; in fact, tone and expression can  alter [...]

Getting A Yes (Instead of Avoiding A No) – The Standard of Enthusiastic Consent

"Oh man, you have no idea..."

The topic of rape culture and what it means to give consent has been coming up in conversations online and off lately. The discussion regarding whether a sex scene in HBO’s Girls depicted rape, sexual assault or just bad sex helped bring the topic to the forefront of the Internet. Meanwhile, conviction of two of the [...]

Ask Dr. NerdLove: Stacking The Deck

Ask Dr. NerdLove

Hi Dr. Nerdlove. Can you help?  There is a guy who is attractive and as a gay person I find it difficult to tell if others are gay. We “jokingly” flirting and I’m not sure if he is serious or not. He doesn’t know that I’m gay. How could I find out? How can I [...]