What Is The “It” Factor?

The head bobble, however, is entirely optional.

I was in Los Angeles last week while I was on vacation – a mix of professional development, visiting friends, chilling out (literally!) on the beach at Malibu and indulging my lifelong love of the Disney theme parks. I spent a great deal of time with my friend Bert, a working actor, a born showman [...]

The Worst Dating Advice In the World (and Why It Really Works)

"I don't think you're gonna recover from that one, buddy."

There are a number of cliches when it comes to dating advice out there, each of them hollow and infuriating. But none of them are quite as mystifying as the perennial classic: “The best way to find a girlfriend is to not want one so badly.” “Don’t try so hard and it’ll happen.” “You’ll only find a [...]

Ask Dr. NerdLove: Ready Player One

Hey Dr Nerdlove, I have a bit of a situation (who doesn’t). It involves a very good friend of mine and two girls (I’m a dude btw). I’ve expressed a very strong interest for one of the girls to my ‘good friend.’ He said he’ll help me out with the girl (wingmanning I guess) but [...]

The Problem With Neediness (Or: The Anti-Sex Equation)

Also, it's ruining the knees of your pants.

There’s a recurring thread I’ve seen lately online, whether it’s in the comments here or in a few of the other forae where I lurk: an increasing sense of desperation for a relationship. As we’re running headlong into the holiday season, it’s only natural for the singletons amongst us to look around at all of [...]

Take Responsibility

Your new life coach...

I’ve talked a little before about how my life was back in the bad old days when my idea of wooing a woman was to follow her around like a newly hatched gosling in the hopes that she might somehow turn around and see all the amazingness I had to offer. I had all sorts of [...]