Dear Dr. NerdLove: A common truism you hear a lot about dating is “You have to learn to love yourself before you can love anyone else”. I’m bringing that up so I can tie dating to something I want to pick your brain on, which is about self-love. I find the messaging around how one…
confidence
How To Break The Paradox of Confidence
If you suffer from low confidence and low self-esteem, you may be familiar with the an effect I refer to as the Paradox of Confidence. It’s a self-esteem Catch-22; you don’t feel confident because you have no accomplishments to feel confident about. However, without having that confidence in the first place, you aren’t able to…
How To Talk To Women (And Get Them To Like You)
Let’s talk about some common misconceptions when it comes to meeting women. One of the most common questions I get from men is “where do I go to meet women?” More often than not, the people who ask me this aren’t asking the right question. They see women all the time, throughout their day to…
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The 5 Steps To Upgrading Your Life
During the early days of the COVID-19 pandemic, there was a lot of talk about how this was an opportunity to do things differently. Now that everyone was in lockdown, they had absolutely nothing else to do but work on themselves. Sure they had to balance work, relationships, trying to meet basic needs without catching…
Ask Dr. NerdLove: What Does Confidence Look Like in Dating?
Hi Doc! I see a lot of advice about what confidence looks like in men (body language, especially), but I don’t know what confidence looks like for me as a woman. Most flirting behavior for women seems to be based on submission cues, but everyone says to be “confident” while flirting. While I know submissive…
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Why Do Women Love “Himbos”?
One of the topics that comes up the most often when it comes to dating advice is, paradoxically, the one that folks get wrong the most often: “what do women find attractive in men?” This is an evergreen subject (ahem), in no small part because of how often guys buy into mistaken ideas about what…