Ask Dr. NerdLove: How Do I Talk About My Past With My Boyfriend?

Ask Dr. NerdLove

Hello Doc, I have a question regarding the appropriate time of disclosure pf past sexual trauma in a new relationship. I was molested as a very young girl: the appropriate timing of sharing my story with new friends and more-than-casual acquaintances is apparent to me in the moment, but I have struggled over when to [...]

Ask Dr. NerdLove: When Do I Tell My Date I’m Trans?

Ask Dr. NerdLove

Hey, Doctor So, I’m thirty, ostensibly male, and have been working on and improving with dating using OKCupid. I also recently realized that I’m trans. I’m not sure yet how far I want to transition to female, even putting logistics and economics aside. However, I still do exclusively prefer women, and assuming I had a [...]

What’s Wrong With “Taking The Red Pill”

"Take the red pill and spend a LOT of time yelling on the Internet."

You may have noticed over the years that I cover a lot of topics that don’t seem to fit squarely in this blog’s mission statement of helping nerds date better. One of the reasons why I write about feminist issues or bad behavior within the geek community is because, frankly, getting better at dating is a holistic system. As I’m fond [...]

Ask Dr. NerdLove: Could I Have Saved This Relationship?

Ask Dr. NerdLove

Hey Doc, Okay, so I have a situation where I got involved with a girl who’s last relationship was abusive (emotionally and physically). We’d both just moved into college (neither of us is a freshman), off campus, second night we hooked up. That night, when we talked, she seemed very interested in making it into [...]

Ask Dr. NerdLove: Is My Girlfriend a Gold-Digger?

Ask Dr. NerdLove

Dear Dr. NerdLove, I’ve have been dating my girlfriend for about four months now. It was some sort of non-official “valentines day” here in my country yesterday and we went to a bar to grab something to eat. of course I paid the bill. I pay the bill 97% of the time. Anyway, my girlfriend [...]