Dear Dr. NerdLove: I think I’ve come to the denouement of my real problem, but as it was a painful process and is still ongoing, I’d like to relate my story and see if you have any good advice for moving forward. I cut ties with a toxic partner about a week ago. I think…
emotional abuse
How Do We Tell Our Families We’re Polyamorous?
Hi Doc – My wife and I have been together for 11 years and have 3 great kids. About three years ago my wife’s friend moved in during a tough spot and never left – we have been a ‘throuple’ ever since and she gave birth about a year ago. After our daughter was born…
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How Do I Break Up With Someone… Safely?
Doctor’s Note: today’s letter involves discussion of suicide and suicidal ideation. Hello Doc. I apologize in advance for how dark this is. I’ve been in a long-distance relationship (my first real relationship) with someone for two and a half years. They (non-binary) have a ton of issues, in terms of mental health and personal baggage,…
My Boyfriend Keeps Calling Me A Slut And I Don’t Know Why
Dear Dr. NerdLove: My boyfriend and I have been together for six years. I am 40 and he is 50. When we first met, I was attracted to him but I thought he was not available. We worked together for a few months. The nature of the work is that we spent nearly the whole…
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Am I A Bad Person For Believing That An Abuser Can Change?
Dear Dr. NerdLove: When I was 14 or 15, one of my friends at the time told me in passing that her boyfriend had been forceful recently in their physical relationship. At the time, I didn’t fully understand what she was saying but I could tell she was upset so I tried to comfort her…
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Was His Girlfriend Cheating On Him With Her Toxic Ex?
Dear Dr. NerdLove: My girlfriend says she was emotionally abused by her ex boyfriend. He had anger and jealousy issues. He would isolate her and dictate the activities they would do together. He would even say hurtful things to her like that she’s not marriage material or that she’ll be alone forever. They dated for…
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