Last week I told you that authenticity was important. This week, I’m going to tell you why it’s good to lie. And no, this isn’t a contradiction in terms.
Stick with me here, this will all make sense in a second.
One of the things I regularly advocate, especially when you’re just starting to work on yourself, is “fake it ’til you make it.” The idea is simple: you develop your confidence by simply acting as though you’re already confident. But in practice, it can be more complicated. For many people, the idea of “fake it ’til you make it” feels like, well, a lie; like you’re trying to trick people. If you’re trying to be your most authentic self, then how are you supposed to square that with lying about your confidence?
Simple: it’s because you’re not lying to people. You’re lying to yourself.
Sort of. Fake it ’til you make it isn’t about tricking others. It’s not about presenting a false front to the world. It’s about changing how you see yourself… and the way you change as a reaction to that belief.