Dr. Nerdlove, I need your full, honest opinion if I should continue to remain just friends with this guy (Let’s call him “A”). Let me give you a backstory (I apologize in advance for the length): “A” and I met through mutual friends when we were teenagers and were instantly drawn to one another emotionally…
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Why Is She Good Enough to Flirt With, But Not Good Enough to Date?
Hi, Doc! I (F, straight, cis, 29) am really fucking furious about something and I think I need a guy with lots of male-female insight to talk me off the ledge. In a therapy session last night with my AMAZING sex therapist (whom I decided to start seeing a few months ago to work out…
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Is It Wrong For Me To Even TRY To Date When I’m Not Attractive?
Hey, Doctor. I’ve been on your site for quite a while, and found it super useful and relatable, with plenty of great advice. For reference, I’m a 24 year old male with zero relationship experience. Never had sex, never been in a relationship, never kissed anyone, never even held hands. The most I can say…
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What Does It Really Take To Find Casual Sex?
Occasionally I get a letter that is less of an entry for Ask Dr. NerdLove and more of an a prompt for a longer form response — something between a Post-Mortem and a typical Wednesday column. This is one of those times. Hello Doc! Well , where can I start? The simple thing is that…
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How Do I Stop Leading People On?
Dear Dr. NerdLove, This is a pretty minor problem compared to a lot of the ones that you deal with, but I’ve really valued your advice over the years, so I thought I’d send it in anyway. I was very nervous and awkward as a teenager, but I have spent the last decade working actively…
I Want A Relationship. So Why Don’t They Make Me Happy?
Dear Doctor, Thanks for all the work you do! I have a question I’ve been pondering for a while now, and it is how on earth I figure out what I want. Because I can’t. And I have been trying very, very hard. Professionally I’m all set (in my very early 30s, got all the…
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