The Selling Of Masculinity

Someone else is going to have to explain an ad that screams  "Is Daddy going to have to choke a bitch" is relevant to selling sunglasses.

The topic of masculinity is one I come back to over and over again because it’s a long-running question for many men. The search for an identity and finding one’s own definition of what it means to be a man is an important part of maturity for young men, one that has been with us through [...]

The Toxic Alpha Male

Meet your role model, gentlemen.

Every once in a while, I like to go browse through some various blogs, forums and subreddits specializing in men’s dating advice to see what theories are being espoused. It’s not terribly surprising (to me) to see that the idea of “being alpha” is continuing to be tossed around as the end-all/be-all of dating; it’s [...]

Where Have All The Good Men Gone?

The mere mention of which is enough to make Mueller Hulk out...

One of the ongoing topics in the media today is the perpetual woe and wailing overthe state of manhood, masculinity and the supposed “crisis” afflicting young men today – causing them to forgo the traditions of manliness of yore and to languish in some perpetual limbo. Guys today – or so claim perpetual pearl-clutchers and [...]

Short Cuts and Magic Bullets

"You know, I was totally going to blow you off, but the story about your stripper ex-girlfriend changed my mind!"

I get a lot of marketing emails from various dating gurus. Call it a professional hazard; sometimes it’s because I get someone who wants me to “review” (i.e. plug) their product or service, sometimes it’s because bots harvested my email, sometimes it’s because I was interested in seeing what they had to say. Now while [...]

The Appeal of “Bad Boys”

Narcissistic. Drug abuser. Unable to keep it in his pants. Perpetually running out of money. All he needed was to be in a band to get  "bad boyfriend" yahtzee.

If there is one thing that men, especially nerdy, geekier men – men more prone to be Nice Guys and White Knights - will complain about when it comes to their dating problems, it’s that women don’t like “nice” men. No, frustrating the millions of men who heard “I wish I could meet a nice guy like [...]