I write to you today to ask for advice on dating women without much in the way of money. Before I come across as some kind of tightass I’ll explain my situation.
I have been unemployed, with the odd stretch of a temporary position here and there lasting no more than two months, for two and a half years and going (my position was made redundant by my company in a response to the GFC). I unfortunately have to rely on welfare to survive, and after I pay rent and bills my budget is razor thin. I usually don’t have enough money for a full tank of fuel in the car, and many days I’ll be eating ramen for at least one meal. In extreme cases I have lived off Christmas cake for a few days, but things aren’t so bad right now. However, I am keeping calm and carrying on as best as I am able and still working toward employment. So onto the problem that I’m bothering you with.
At the start of this stretch of unemployment I had decided to get employment before finding female companionship, but as time goes by I find myself see-sawing between loneliness and missing the spark a relationship gives. And so I am considering rejoining the dating pool. Problem being that I literally have no money. Common sense is screaming to me that I should secure employment before seeking any kind of relationship or risk nothing more than curt rejection, but between not knowing when that could be and finding myself thinking about being in a relationship more and more, I am wondering if dating women on an extreme budget is possible. For the record, I am expecting a flat ‘no’ here. But if it is possible, albeit improbable, I want to give it a go.
To start with, how blatantly should I be advertising that I’m broke? I don’t have an OKCupid account (or equivalent), but am looking at making one soon. Do I need to post the fact that I don’t have much on there? If I don’t, will women see that as some form of ‘false advertising’, or is this something to bring up on the first date and see how the cards fall? How do you even tell her?
Secondly, I usually don’t have the money per fortnight for much more than one meal out at a date-worthy establishment. By which I mean anything more expensive than fast food, which I’m not about to subject a woman to on a date. When I’m by myself I can keep entertained by replaying old video games, reading classical literature from the library (The Divine Comedy feels sadly familiar), or rewatching Initial D, but I don’t really have ideas for cheap/free dates that won’t get me laughed at or fled from. Any that come to mind, or methods to find specifically local cheap date ideas would really help out.
I’m sick of the ‘wake up -> look for work -> stave boredom -> sleep alone’ cycle I’m stuck in over and over. I’m doing all I can to find work in the meantime, but until then am I doomed to repeat this scenario over and over alone?
Any advice is appreciated. Thanks for your time.
Temporarily Embarrassed Millionaire