How many of you have a close friend? And I don’t mean someone you game with or go out on the town or the ever classic “help you move bodies”. How many of you have a friend – or several friends – who you can go to when you need help. When you need emotional support…
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Defining A Modern Masculinity
I spend a lot of time thinking about masculinity and what it means to be a man. It’s a natural consequence of the job, to be honest; a lot of dating is caught up in the ideas of traditional gender roles, of the man as aggressor and female as receiver, of male and female sexual…
Ask Dr. NerdLove: Bad Case Of Loving You
Hi Doc, I have a question that may pertain to broader issues of gender roles. So I have a feeling that girls don’t like me because I’m too accommodating, which is seen as a “girly” thing. Basically I apologize for shit too much. People seem to very aware that women are raised to apologize for…
Finding Strength Through Vulnerability
Over the years if there’s one thing that I’ve learned (much to my friends’ sorrow) is that one can find lessons in just about everything, no matter how seemingly disconnected. My man-crush on Jax Teller from Sons of Anarchy? Boom: inspiration. Doctor Who? Here’s why you should be following Captain Jack, not Mystery. Even after devoting 2500+…
Jonathan Martin and The Quiet Strength of True Manhood
Let me paint a scenario for you. Let’s say that you’ve been working at a white-collar job for a couple of years… it pays well and you’ve got the potential to make absurd amounts of money if you stick around for a few more years and move up in the organization. But part of the job…
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When Masculinity Fails Men
It’s been an interesting week for talking about masculinity. To start with, ABC’s 20/20 aired a story about the Manosphere and the Men’s Rights Movement (which, ironically enough seems to have touched off a weird Jay-Z/Nas-esque feud between two leading voices of the MRM). The Daily Beast provided a thoughtful, if somewhat flawed, report on the…