Finding True Confidence

There is, however, a noted correlation between popped collars and the transition from "confident" to "douchebag".

Straight talk time: confidence is sexy. Someone who lacks confidence – even if he looks like a GQ cover model – is going to be considerably less attractive than someone who may not have perfect facial features but does have abundant self-esteem. This isn’t just “rah rah self-esteem” feel-good bullshit; confidence actually alters how people see you. In a [...]

5 Simple Ways To Jumpstart Your Life

5 Simple Ways to Jumpstart Your Life

One of the hardest things  about self-improvement, especially when you’re trying to fix your dating life, is feeling like you’re getting nowhere. Now to be fair, change takes time and more often than not, you’re trying to overcome the habits of a lifetime… but that’s cold comfort when you can see that new life waiting [...]

Five Simple Ways To Make Your Life Better


As you may have noticed, I’m a big believer in self-improvement. After all, most of getting better at dating is about treating one’s life as a holistic system, rather than sex and dating being a discrete aspect of yourself, cut off from everything else. Nine times out of ten, most of the problems people have [...]

How To Avoid Dating Burnout

Believe me, the things you're scared of will be the things you laugh about together down the line.

Whenever the topic of dating comes up amongst my friends, I’m always struck by the number of them who hated the process of dating. They couldn’t stand it: the frustrations of trying to find the right person, the disappointment of another “close-but-no-cigar” first date that went absolutely nowhere. Even worse were the near-misses, the people who [...]

The Top 5 Dating Mistakes Men Make

"There's no way she agreed to go out with me that easily. Something's wrong..."

On Monday, we talked about how the key to learning any new skill is to deconstruct it. You want to break the skill – whether it’s playing guitar, learning a new language or even dating – into its core components. It’s entirely too easy to get distracted by side issues; the would-be martial artist wants [...]