Getting better at dating is hard enough. It gets even harder when it feels like your own mind is fighting back against your attempts to improve yourself. When I was younger, I used to be a chronic insomniac. I’d be physically tired, but I could never actually get to sleep; my body would be exhausted…
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Just Be Yourself
In the course of trying to get better at dating, there will inevitably be times where someone in your life is going to give you what is possibly the most useless dating advice ever: “Just be yourself”. After all, presumably you want someone who wants you for you and not whatever dubious achievements you may…
What Is The “It” Factor?
I was in Los Angeles last week while I was on vacation – a mix of professional development, visiting friends, chilling out (literally!) on the beach at Malibu and indulging my lifelong love of the Disney theme parks. I spent a great deal of time with my friend Bert, a working actor, a born showman…
Who Controls You?
I want you to think about control for a moment. Are you the sort of person who believes in fate and destiny? Or are you the sort of person who believes in consequences? Fate is an attractive thing to believe in; there’s a certain comfort to be found in believing that there is something that…
The Social Resistance To Change
The only sure path to improving your dating life is to improve yourself. But what happens when nobody else seems to notice these changes? Going from the sad sack loser – an “average frustrated chump” in PUA parlance – to being someone who was confident and at ease with himself and who actually was skilled…
The Numbers Game (Or PVP: Player vs. Prude)
I’ve been on vacation for the last couple weeks, enjoying some fun in the sun in the south of France. This, unfortunately, has meant spending a LOT of time in airports and on international flights where the only inflight movie was Twilight: Breaking Dawn Part 1 – the Breakening.This, in turn meant that it was…