Ask Dr. NerdLove: Did I Break Bro Code?

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Dear Doc, I have a question about “cock blocking” and the sketchy at best concept of the “bro code”. Okay. So I’m on my way to chill at my friend’s house, and he tells me he has a girl over so I ask him if he wants alone time or whatever. He tells me it’s [...]

Ask Dr. NerdLove: When Do I Tell My Date I’m Trans?

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Hey, Doctor So, I’m thirty, ostensibly male, and have been working on and improving with dating using OKCupid. I also recently realized that I’m trans. I’m not sure yet how far I want to transition to female, even putting logistics and economics aside. However, I still do exclusively prefer women, and assuming I had a [...]

Ask Dr. NerdLove: Why Don’t I Want Sex?

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Hey Doc, I could use your help. I want to preface this by saying that, throughout the entirety of my childhood, my mother mentally abused me (even before she and my father divorced). She’d tear up my things purely because I liked them or my father’s side of the family got them for me, she’d [...]

Ask Dr. NerdLove: How Can I Just Be Myself?

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Dear Dr. NerdLove, It occurs to me to write for your input because of both of your interests as a nerd and a (former) PUA. For many, those two interests don’t go hand-in-hand, yet you seem to have found a comfortable balance. So here is my trouble. I have many different hobbies, interests, and values [...]

Ask Dr. NerdLove: Is My Girlfriend a Gold-Digger?

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Dear Dr. NerdLove, I’ve have been dating my girlfriend for about four months now. It was some sort of non-official “valentines day” here in my country yesterday and we went to a bar to grab something to eat. of course I paid the bill. I pay the bill 97% of the time. Anyway, my girlfriend [...]