Ask Dr. NerdLove: How Do I Get Over My Girlfriend’s Sexual History?

Ask Dr. NerdLove

Doctor’s Note: I’m working on a new book, due out in 2015 from Thought Catalog. While I’m pounding out the manuscript, Paging Dr. NerdLove is going to be working on a lighter schedule, focusing on reader’s questions. New Ask Dr. NerdLove articles will be going up every Monday and Friday. We’ll be back to the [...]

Are You Sexually Compatible?

"Amazing how you can stay up to catch the midnight movie premier, but you're 'too tired' when I even look at you cross-eyed."

Let’s talk a little about relationship longevity. Most relationships aren’t going to have what it takes to go the distance. In fact, many relationships simply can’t last because of a simple fact: you’re not sexually compatible. It may not seem like it at first, while you’re caught up in the throes of new relationship energy. Even if [...]

How To Stop Fighting With Your Girlfriend (And Start Making Up)

And nothing says "successful relationship" like two people trying to outstubborn one another for the moral high-ground.

Here’s something that most relationship coaches aren’t going to tell you: fights are a part of relationships. The sooner you accept this, the sooner you can learn how to stop fighting. Doesn’t seem like that makes sense, does it? Stick with me here for a second and you’ll understand. Relationships are kind of like Fight Club: [...]

What I Wish I Knew Before My First Relationship

5 Things I Wish I Knew Before My First Relationship

A large number of the emails I get for Ask Dr. NerdLove, both here and at Kotaku start off the same way: “I’ve never had a girlfriend”. Many my readers have a lot of anxiety over finding their first relationship. In fact, many feel that they’re essentially doomed because they’ve never seriously1 dated anyone before. They see the large [...]

Ask Dr. NerdLove: How Can I Date When I’m Dying?

Ask Dr. NerdLove

Hey Doc, About eight years ago, I was diagnosed with a brain tumor. It’s recurred about four times since. Doctors throw out the words “inevitable” and “incurable” when talking about my tumor, especially when talking about its recurrence. As a result, I effectively have an expiration date. Not necessarily a scheduled death date, but a [...]