What Couples Can Learn From Gomez and Morticia Addams

I’m not a fan of love stories. I realize this sounds odd coming from someone who teaches people how make others fall in love with them, but stay with me for a moment here. The most famous, beloved love stories of all time all end in the death of one or both of the lovers. […]

Ask Dr. NerdLove: Did I Break Bro Code?

Ask Dr. NerdLove

Dear Doc, I have a question about “cock blocking” and the sketchy at best concept of the “bro code”. Okay. So I’m on my way to chill at my friend’s house, and he tells me he has a girl over so I ask him if he wants alone time or whatever. He tells me it’s […]

Ask Dr. NerdLove: When Do I Tell My Date I’m Trans?

Ask Dr. NerdLove

Hey, Doctor So, I’m thirty, ostensibly male, and have been working on and improving with dating using OKCupid. I also recently realized that I’m trans. I’m not sure yet how far I want to transition to female, even putting logistics and economics aside. However, I still do exclusively prefer women, and assuming I had a […]

Ask Dr. NerdLove: Why Don’t I Want Sex?

Ask Dr. NerdLove

Hey Doc, I could use your help. I want to preface this by saying that, throughout the entirety of my childhood, my mother mentally abused me (even before she and my father divorced). She’d tear up my things purely because I liked them or my father’s side of the family got them for me, she’d […]

Ask Dr. NerdLove: How Can I Just Be Myself?

Ask Dr. NerdLove

Dear Dr. NerdLove, It occurs to me to write for your input because of both of your interests as a nerd and a (former) PUA. For many, those two interests don’t go hand-in-hand, yet you seem to have found a comfortable balance. So here is my trouble. I have many different hobbies, interests, and values […]