What I Wish I Knew Before My First Relationship

5 Things I Wish I Knew Before My First Relationship

A large number of the emails I get for Ask Dr. NerdLove, both here and at Kotaku start off the same way: “I’ve never had a girlfriend”. Many my readers have a lot of anxiety over finding their first relationship. In fact, many feel that they’re essentially doomed because they’ve never seriously1 dated anyone before. They see the large [...]

Ask Dr. NerdLove: How Can I Date When I’m Dying?

Ask Dr. NerdLove

Hey Doc, About eight years ago, I was diagnosed with a brain tumor. It’s recurred about four times since. Doctors throw out the words “inevitable” and “incurable” when talking about my tumor, especially when talking about its recurrence. As a result, I effectively have an expiration date. Not necessarily a scheduled death date, but a [...]

“Cutoff Culture” And the Myth of Closure

Cut-Off Culture and the Myth of Closure

Every once in a while, the universe likes to drop a subject in my lap. Last week, several of my readers forwarded me an article on Medium called “Shining Light on Cutoff Culture“, a think piece by one Jeff Reifman, about closure and communication. Evidently, Reifman’s heart was broken by “Emma” when she not only [...]

Is She Right For You?

Is She Right For You?

Ever have a problem where you keep dating the “wrong” person over and over again? Do you keep wondering why every woman seems to be awesome… but they never seem to work out? Have you gotten caught up in a cycle where you date someone and it’s amazing in the early stages, but it explodes [...]

How To Maintain a Casual Relationship

Maintaining a Casual Relationship

Commitment isn’t for everyone. Sometimes what you want is something a bit more low key, a more casual relationship instead of something long-term. Maybe you’ve just gotten out of a relationship and the last thing you want is to jump on that particular horse again. Or maybe you’ve been a devoted reader of this site and now that [...]