Ask Dr. NerdLove: Why Don’t I Want Sex?

Ask Dr. NerdLove

Hey Doc, I could use your help. I want to preface this by saying that, throughout the entirety of my childhood, my mother mentally abused me (even before she and my father divorced). She’d tear up my things purely because I liked them or my father’s side of the family got them for me, she’d [...]

Ask Dr. NerdLove: How Can I Just Be Myself?

Ask Dr. NerdLove

Dear Dr. NerdLove, It occurs to me to write for your input because of both of your interests as a nerd and a (former) PUA. For many, those two interests don’t go hand-in-hand, yet you seem to have found a comfortable balance. So here is my trouble. I have many different hobbies, interests, and values [...]

Ask Dr. NerdLove: Is My Girlfriend a Gold-Digger?

Ask Dr. NerdLove

Dear Dr. NerdLove, I’ve have been dating my girlfriend for about four months now. It was some sort of non-official “valentines day” here in my country yesterday and we went to a bar to grab something to eat. of course I paid the bill. I pay the bill 97% of the time. Anyway, my girlfriend [...]

Ask Dr. NerdLove: How Do I Get Over My Girlfriend’s Sexual History?

Ask Dr. NerdLove

Doctor’s Note: I’m working on a new book, due out in 2015 from Thought Catalog. While I’m pounding out the manuscript, Paging Dr. NerdLove is going to be working on a lighter schedule, focusing on reader’s questions. New Ask Dr. NerdLove articles will be going up every Monday and Friday. We’ll be back to the [...]

Are You Sexually Compatible?

"Amazing how you can stay up to catch the midnight movie premier, but you're 'too tired' when I even look at you cross-eyed."

Let’s talk a little about relationship longevity. Most relationships aren’t going to have what it takes to go the distance. In fact, many relationships simply can’t last because of a simple fact: you’re not sexually compatible. It may not seem like it at first, while you’re caught up in the throes of new relationship energy. Even if [...]