Confidence is one of the most valuable traits a person can have. Confident people are literally more attractive. As scientists have found, something as simple as a placebo in cologne is enough to make people feel more self-assured.
In and of itself, this is good news. The mere act of believing in your own value drastically alters your own behavior, from your body language to your attitude, making you more appealing to others with only slight changes.
The problem is that it’s incredibly hard to be confident when you don’t feel it already. The disconnect between the goal – being confident – and where you are now – decidedly not confident – is immense. It’s easy to say “just be confident” or “women love confident men” or something equally banal. It’s like suggesting that flying is easy; all you have to do is throw yourself at the ground and miss.
But the people who are the most confident aren’t the ones who started that way. They developed their confidence over time. Here’s how you can get the same results they have.