These Self-Limiting Beliefs Are Holding You Back

"Oh cool, so I've finally succeeded at something."

Here’s a secret a lot of dating coaches won’t tell you: most of your dating problems are in your head. This isn’t to say that they don’t exist – it’s that most people’s sticking points tend to be the result of self-limiting beliefs. And the crazy part is that we tend to want to keep them. In fact, more […]

Starting From Zero

Starting From Zero

One of the common complaints I hear from readers is that they have absolutely no dating history or experience and don’t know where to begin. And in fairness, while I do have a number of articles in The Basics that cover the dating fundamentals, sometimes it can be hard to know just where to begin. After all, […]

Leveling Up: Developing An Abundance Mentality

Welcome to 2014 folks. It’s a new year and ripe for potential and improvement.   If you’re like most folks, you’ve made some New Year’s resolutions. Perhaps getting better at dating is one of them… Usually around this time, I make my annual tirade about how New Year’s resolutions are wastes of time but I want to […]

Redefining Failure

My shitty graphic novel is still better than the imaginary one other people just keep talking about.

I’m a failure. And I’m ok with that. There are a lot of things I’ve failed at.  I’m a failure as a professional artist and photographer. I’m a failure as a comic publisher. I’m sure you could probably find plenty of women in my past who would quite happily tell you that I’m a failure […]

You Are Your Own Worst Enemy

"I'm gonna fuck you up, son..."

I’m going to let you in on a little secret. You are your own worst enemy. Nine times out of ten, you are the biggest single obstacle standing in the way of self-improvement. Now don’t get me wrong: this isn’t because there is something inherently wrong with you. You’re not having a harder time than […]