One of the most frustrating parts of trying to build an amazing life — especially when you’re working on your dating and social skills — is the feeling of helplessness. There’s this very real and very palpable sense of feeling like you’re stuck, unable to make any progress. You’ve been working as hard as you…
self-sabotage
Am I An Asshole If I Don’t Want to Settle for Someone In My “League”?
Dear Dr. NerdLove, My entire family is dead, and I’ve been living with my only close and reasonably well-off friend and her husband since losing my job and housing in the summer of 2020. I have severe anxiety and a number of physical health issues that all together mean I am not capable of working…
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Ask Dr. NerdLove: How Do I Get My Confidence Back?
Hi Dr. NerdLove, You’ve mentioned you once lost a relationship with someone you thought was the perfect match and the love of you life. This just happened to me, and it is absolutely soul-crushing. On the one hand, it’s reassuring to know it happens and people can come out on the other side. And I…
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Ask Dr. NerdLove: How Do I Avoid Sabotaging My Relationships?
Hi Dr. NerdLove, I’ve been listening to your show for a while now and really like your approach to handling communication within a relationship. I have a question for you as both a perpetual worrier and former long-term single lady. I hadn’t been dating for the better part of the previous 3 – 4 years…
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Paging Dr. NerdLove Episode #41 – How To Avoid Self-Sabotage
It’s hard to admit, but often we are our own worst enemies when it comes to solving our dating issues. We get torn between wanting to fix things and resenting that things need to be fixed in the first place. And that tension makes it almost impossible to improve because it keeps you from doing…
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