Ask Dr. NerdLove: A Kink Too Far

Ask Dr. NerdLove

Hey Dr. NerdLove, I keep getting to the same problem very quickly with every guy. As I fear it is kind of a circle I’m not sure where to begin. I do not feel like I need much sex (but probably I’m mistaken, you’ll see later on). Penetration is “bearable” at the best times, but […]

Ask Dr. NerdLove: Help We Have TOO MUCH Sex

Ask Dr. NerdLove

Dr. NerdLove, I’ve managed to get myself into a difficult situation and could use some advice on how to deal with it. I recently found your site and have been impressed with the no-nonsense advice you give and your mission to make men better at dating. After all, what I’m after advice on is how […]

What Couples Can Learn From Gomez and Morticia Addams

I’m not a fan of love stories. I realize this sounds odd coming from someone who teaches people how make others fall in love with them, but stay with me for a moment here. The most famous, beloved love stories of all time all end in the death of one or both of the lovers. […]

What Do Your Secret Sexual Desires Say About You?


<This post originally appeared on Thought Catalog> “Tell me how you want to fuck and I’ll tell you who you are.” There’s a belief that, in order to be our true selves, we have to be exactly that person at every level. Consistency above all else must be maintained, lest we prove ourselves to be hypocrites […]

What’s Wrong With “Taking The Red Pill”

"Take the red pill and spend a LOT of time yelling on the Internet."

You may have noticed over the years that I cover a lot of topics that don’t seem to fit squarely in this blog’s mission statement of helping nerds date better. One of the reasons why I write about feminist issues or bad behavior within the geek community is because, frankly, getting better at dating is a holistic system. As I’m fond […]