What Couples Can Learn From Gomez and Morticia Addams

I’m not a fan of love stories. I realize this sounds odd coming from someone who teaches people how make others fall in love with them, but stay with me for a moment here. The most famous, beloved love stories of all time all end in the death of one or both of the lovers. […]

What Do Your Secret Sexual Desires Say About You?

"OH GOD I HAVE MADE POOR LIFE DECISIONS!!!"

<This post originally appeared on Thought Catalog> “Tell me how you want to fuck and I’ll tell you who you are.” There’s a belief that, in order to be our true selves, we have to be exactly that person at every level. Consistency above all else must be maintained, lest we prove ourselves to be hypocrites […]

What’s Wrong With “Taking The Red Pill”

"Take the red pill and spend a LOT of time yelling on the Internet."

You may have noticed over the years that I cover a lot of topics that don’t seem to fit squarely in this blog’s mission statement of helping nerds date better. One of the reasons why I write about feminist issues or bad behavior within the geek community is because, frankly, getting better at dating is a holistic system. As I’m fond […]

Ask Dr. NerdLove: How Do I Get Over My Girlfriend’s Sexual History?

Ask Dr. NerdLove

Doctor’s Note: I’m working on a new book, due out in 2015 from Thought Catalog. While I’m pounding out the manuscript, Paging Dr. NerdLove is going to be working on a lighter schedule, focusing on reader’s questions. New Ask Dr. NerdLove articles will be going up every Monday and Friday. We’ll be back to the […]

Are You Sexually Compatible?

"Amazing how you can stay up to catch the midnight movie premier, but you're 'too tired' when I even look at you cross-eyed."

Let’s talk a little about relationship longevity. Most relationships aren’t going to have what it takes to go the distance. In fact, many relationships simply can’t last because of a simple fact: you’re not sexually compatible. It may not seem like it at first, while you’re caught up in the throes of new relationship energy. Even if […]