The Truth About Casual Sex (and How To Get it)

"I don't get it. How could porn have lied to me?"

One of the oldest canards – something I’ve written about before, in fact – is the idea that women don’t like sex, especially casual sex, as much as men do. It’s the subject of many a heated debate, the punchline to hacky comedians’ jokes and the background noise in movies and sitcoms since pretty much forever. […]

The Power of Uncertainty

"I know, right?"

One of the things I like to do as a dating coach is to keep up with the latest research on relationships and dating. So naturally, I like to read the latest studies coming from esteemed peer-reviewed journals such as, er. Esquire Magazine. Joking aside, the article Here’s What Happened When Our Bosses Forced Us […]

Ask Dr. NerdLove: My Husband Doesn’t Want Me Anymore

Ask Dr. NerdLove

Hi Dr Nerdlove My husband and I have been married for almost 5 years. We connected immediately over Farscape and an epic scrabble game, and tied the knot 6 months from our first date, pregnant with our first child. He became stepdad to my older two kids, and we’ve since had two more babies together, […]

How To Introduce Kink Into Your Relationship

Say what you will about her writing, E.L. James has single-handedly put braces on the children of hand-cuff manufacturers around the world.

Kink is becoming a hot topic again.  50 Shades of Grey‘s movie adaptation opening on Valentine’s Day weekend has put bondage and kink and James Dornan on the front page of magazines and blogs all over again, while shameless knock-off factory Asylum is tantalizing nerds by casting Charisma Carpenter in Bound1 Meanwhile sex shops around the country are […]

Ask Dr. NerdLove: A Kink Too Far

Ask Dr. NerdLove

Hey Dr. NerdLove, I keep getting to the same problem very quickly with every guy. As I fear it is kind of a circle I’m not sure where to begin. I do not feel like I need much sex (but probably I’m mistaken, you’ll see later on). Penetration is “bearable” at the best times, but […]