Hi Doc. I have a question about shy nerdy guys and sex. I’m married to one of these types of guys–we’ll call him Tom–so I hope you can offer some special insight in this issue. He’s wonderful, funny, sweet, intelligent guy. With the exception of sex, our relationship is perfect. I know–BIG exception. That’s why…
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The Virgin’s Guide To Great Sex
There’s a lot of anxiety surrounding being a virgin. We live in a society that has a notable double-standard on sexuality, especially where virginity is concerned; male virgins (past a certain age) are seen as being immature, incomplete man-children, utter losers who can’t get a woman1. A woman who is a virgin is a vision…
Nerd Role Models: The Pick-Up Artist
Today I’m introducing a new series of articles examining various notable figures in geek culture, why they’re popular and why nerds may want to emulate them. A set of nerd role models, as it were. It can be easy to feel overwhelmed by the sheer volume of things to keep in mind when it comes…
Getting A Yes (Instead of Avoiding A No) – The Standard of Enthusiastic Consent
The topic of rape culture and what it means to give consent has been coming up in conversations online and off lately. The discussion regarding whether a sex scene in HBO’s Girls depicted rape, sexual assault or just bad sex helped bring the topic to the forefront of the Internet. Meanwhile, conviction of two of the…
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The Selling Of Masculinity
The topic of masculinity is one I come back to over and over again because it’s a long-running question for many men. The search for an identity and finding one’s own definition of what it means to be a man is an important part of maturity for young men, one that has been with us through…
Ask Dr. NerdLove: Ex Sex Wrecks
Hi Doc, This past week has been extremely confusing for me because one of my exes has been thoroughly confounding me. Backstory: I “fell” for this girl in grade 5, upon seeing her for the first time I thought she was the most beautiful woman on earth (I was young) and I was determined to…