After years of physical and sexual abuse, he’s ready to try to date again. How can he meet women and date while still feeing safe and secure?
sexual abuse
What Do I Do About My Low Sex Drive?
Doctor’s note: Today’s letter deals with sexual and emotional abusive relationships and sexual assault Dear Dr. NerdLove: I (23m) have always had something of a low sex drive, as in, I just don’t really enjoy having sex or masturbating. I mean, there are some times when I do, but I would say it’s probably not…
I’m Afraid To Enjoy Sex. What Do I Do?
Dear Dr. NerdLove: I’ve never written one of these, so apologies if it’s awkward or weird. I’ve never had an orgasm. This is not the fault of my partner of 10ish years, he’s wonderful. It’s me; anytime I get close, I panic and shut down. I don’t trust easily, due to a not-great upbringing, and…
On Finding Out Your Heroes are Monsters (Or: Detoxifying A Culture)
Warren Ellis is someone who could be credibly referred to as a genius. Transmetropolitan — a futuristic riff on Hunter S. Thompson — has never felt more relevant than in the era of Trump and the nationwide Black Lives Matters protests. The Marvel cinematic universe exists in no small part because of his Iron Man comic…
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How Do I Ask My Girlfriend if She Was Abused?
Doctors’ Note: Today’s column includes a discussion of familial sexual abuse. Hi Doc, I have a situation that I’m not quite sure how to handle. TL;DR: There’s a pretty heavy subject I am contemplating raising with my partner but I’m not sure how to go about it. To explain, I (he/him) have been seeing my…
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Ask Dr. NerdLove: Was This Sexual Abuse?
Doctor’s Note: Today’s column includes discussion of sexual and emotional abuse. Dear Doctor NerdLove, I‘m a 30-year old university student from Germany and I’ve found your column quite helpful. Recently it made me think about a few experiences I made back as a young adult. This has been nagging at me for a while now…