I have a serious question for you: are you someone who plays to win, or who plays to avoid losing? Most folks would say that, yes, they absolutely play to win. Even if they’re not the sort of min/maxing, loophole-finding, cutthroat gamesman who makes board game night a flaming hellscape, people will generally say that…
sexual compatibility
Ask Dr. NerdLove: I Like Rough Sex. Does That Mean Something’s Wrong With Me?
Dear Dr. NerdLove: I’m a cis woman who has been happily married to a kind, gentle, cis man for 3 years. The only area where we are mismatched is our libidos — mine is very high and his is not. But we’ve made it work and for the most part and sex has been enjoyable,…
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Is It Ok To End A Relationship Over Sex?
Hey Doc, How do you know if/when to end a long-term relationship when everything is great except for the sex? How do you know when it’s irrational to keep trying to make it work? I’ve been dating my girlfriend Helen (not her real name) for 5 years, and lived with her for 3. We’re both…
Why Don’t I Want To Sleep With My Girlfriend?
Hello Dr. NerdLove: I’m a man in my early thirties. Growing up throughout my adolescence and, until I was around 25, I didn’t had any kind of sexual or even a casual relationship with any woman. I didn’t go to parties or any kind of social events, my job was menial and going nowhere and…
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How Do I Tell My Girlfriend I’m Ready To Try Her Kink?
Doctor’s Note: today’s column deals with talk of sexual assault in the context of people pretending to not consent to sexual activities. What’s up, Doc? I’m a 25 year old male, and I’m dating a 24 year old woman, we’ve been together about two months so far, and it’s mostly been very positive. We have…
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Why Don’t I Enjoy Sex Anymore?
Hey Doc, To start with thanks for all the work you do, the advice you give is always appreciated! I would love to get your thoughts on something that’s been bothering me for awhile. I was a virgin through most of my 20’s, until I was in a long term relationship with a great woman….