How to Handle Being “Just Friends”

One of the biggest myths in dating – and one I can’t stand – is the idea that men and women can’t be just friends. In its own way, it’s perversely fascinating because it’s very much a Straight People Problem. The idea that sex will inevitably come between two people doesn’t seem to be an […]

Ask Dr. NerdLove: What’s Wrong With Being Desperate?

Hi Doc, I need some help on this subject, as its been tormenting me for years upon years and I cant get out of it. Why does desperation turn away women from men? It doesn’t make sense, especially evolutionary speaking. We are biologically programmed to want sex, so if someone doesn’t get it for a long time, […]

Ask Dr. NerdLove: Sexual Fluidity Challenges

Hi Dr. NerdLove: I’m from Mexico, sorry if my english is a bit weird, i have an odd situation at hand that definitely needs advice from an expert … so that’s why I’m contacting you ^^. A bit of backstory, I’ve known “Se” since we were in college, and I fell hard for her, the only […]

How To Get Out Of The Friend Zone (Without Losing Your Friend)

Normally, on Fridays I like to answer readers’ dating questions. However, occasionally I’ll receive a question that merits a full article, something that has wider interest than the specific circumstances of the question. This week, we have just such a question. And it involves The Friend Zone1 We’ve talked about avoiding the Friend Zone in […]

Ask Dr. NerdLove: What’s the Difference Between Flirting and Just Being Friendly?

Hi Dr. NerdLove, I recently discovered your site and first of all want to say – where have you been my entire (romantic) life?? Reading through your archive has already given me insights into the mechanics of flirting and bonding rituals that have mystified me for years – and I was pleased to see that […]