Dear Dr. NerdLove: Outside observers have commented that my relationship with my boyfriend seems unhealthily weird, however to me it feels like a good (though unusual) fit. I suspect my boyfriend might have schizoid personality disorder – so am I fooling myself that this is even possible? Background: We’ve been dating for over 5 years. My boyfriend […]
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How Do I Get My Partner To Slow Down In Bed?
Hi Doc, I appreciate you’re not a medical doctor so can’t comment on potential physical causes for this issue, but I’m not even sure where to start looking for advice on this that doesn’t immediately descend into snake-oil and weird assumptions. I’ve been following your blog since the sex-positive hey-day of the late aughts, so […]
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My Fiance Cheated on Me. Now He Wants An Open Relationship.
Hi there Dr NerdLove, I’m in a mess. I was supposed to get married this summer until we postponed for COVID; then two months ago my fiancé confessed to cheating on me. Not like once or twice, but probably twenty times with maybe a dozen different women, from one-night stands to hookups with a friend […]
My Friend Is In An Abusive Relationship. How Can I Help Her?
Doctor’s Note: today’s letter includes discussions and descriptions of emotional and verbal abuse. Hi Doctor! I’m not sure if this is the kind of question to take on, because it’s not about me specifically, but about my brother (30) and his girlfriend (29). They’ve been in a relationship for about five years and to be […]
These Are Things You Only Learn When Your Friend Dies
This was the exact sort of update I never wanted to write. Back in 2017, I wrote “What Nobody Tells You About Grieving“as a way of dealing with feelings of losing a beloved pet and all the things it brought out about losing my father and grandmother over the years. At the time, it felt […]
