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Episode #142 — The 5 Things You Need To Get Your Life Together

How happy are you with your life right now? If you’re like most people, you probably have a list of major changes you’ve wanted to make. You may even have looked at the current pandemic as your chance to work on yourself and get your life where you want it to be. Now tell me, […]

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How Do I Stay Social During The COVID-19 Quarantine?

Hi Doc, First off, thanks for the great work you do! Without you, nerds would probably be a dying breed 🙂 I’m a 37 year old cis man, who recently turned his life around. I have a mild form of autism and have never been very outgoing or socially savvy. After briefly living on my […]

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How Do I Find The Strength To Fix My Broken Life?

Dear Dr. NerdLove, I am 46 years old. When I was 35, my husband and I had a terrible divorce with custody battle.  I won, but I had to give up my dreams of moving home to another state as a condition of custody. I put everything on hold to care for them, including a […]

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When It Clicks: The Guide To Mastering Online Dating

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Episode #141 — How To Get Your Ex Back… The RIGHT Way

Last time, we talked about the recent trend of folks reaching out to their exes, why it’s happening so frequently and why it can be comforting to try to rekindle an old relationship. But it’s far too easy to fall back to old patterns and old routines with your ex, which means you’re going to […]

How Do I Tell My Husband I Need A Kinkier Sex Life?

Dear Dr. NerdLove, I’ve been married to a wonderful man for 5 years. I grew up in a strict religion and felt sexually repressed for most of my life. Then I met a man several years my junior who loved me and converted for me to marry me. We’ve gone through a lot together, a […]

How Do I Date More Than One Woman At A Time?

Hi doc, I tend to meet women on Tinder and date a couple at a time. Five years ago, I did this because while I could be charming for a date or two, soon enough the realities of my then pathetic life would shine through. The reaction was girls tended to like me less the […]

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