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No matter what you’re looking for, Dr. NerdLove is here to help you find the relationship you want.

Who Is Dr. NerdLove?

Harris O’Malley is an internationally recognized relationship expert, dating coach and syndicated advice columnist.

Famous for his ability to simplify complex dating dilemmas and solve the toughest relationship problems, he has long been sought after for coaching and advice.

Harris and his work have been featured in or on Nightline, Fusion TV, Vice, New York Magazine, The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, The Harvard Business Journal, The Guardian, CBC’s Out In The Open, Buzzfeed, Wired, Think Progress, Raw Story, Slate, Boing Boing, The Good Men Project, The Daily Dot, Mel Magazine, Lifehacker, Kotaku and many, many more.

Harris has been making nerds sexier since 2011.

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  • Why Do I Only Hook Up With People That I Don’t Like?
    He’s great at flirting and finding hook-ups… as long as he’s not attracted to them. Why can he never find the same success with people he actually likes?

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My Latest Columns

Why Do I Only Hook Up With People That I Don’t Like?

Dr. NerdLove
October 16, 2026

He’s great at flirting and finding hook-ups… as long as he’s not attracted to them. Why can he never find the same success with people he actually likes?

Continue Reading Why Do I Only Hook Up With People That I Don’t Like?

I Got Everything I Wanted. Why Do I Feel So Empty?

Dr. NerdLove
October 14, 2026

He followed the red-pill advice, followed all the “rules” and it seemed to be working. He’s better looking, had more sex… so why is he not happy?

Continue Reading I Got Everything I Wanted. Why Do I Feel So Empty?

Why Don’t The Women I Match With On Dating Apps Put In Any Effort?

Dr. NerdLove
October 12, 2026

He’s getting matches, but trying to talk to them feels like pulling teeth. Why do the women on the apps never put in any effort into getting to know him?

Continue Reading Why Don’t The Women I Match With On Dating Apps Put In Any Effort?

I Don’t Know What I’m Doing Wrong On Dates And Nobody Will Tell Me

Dr. NerdLove
October 9, 2026

Dating is a constant struggle for him and nobody will tell him what he’s doing wrong. How is he supposed to get over the frustration and fix his game?

Continue Reading I Don’t Know What I’m Doing Wrong On Dates And Nobody Will Tell Me

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