If you’re a regular reader of this blog, then the odds are you aren’t satisfied with your dating life as it currently stands.
Maybe you keep ending up in the Friend Zone. Or perhaps you have never had a date in your life and you’re afraid that you’re going to die a virgin. The specifics don’t matter; what ultimately matters is that you know that things could be different, but you’re not quite sure how.
Now going through the blog, maybe some of the advice makes sense to you. It agrees with your pre-suppositions about what you should and shouldn’t be doing in your quest to improve your dating life.
Some of it though… some of it may leave you scratching your head. “Really, this doesn’t apply to me. I’d need to be at a higher level than I am to try this. This couldn’t possibly work. This isn’t me.”
So no, maybe it isn’t you. Maybe it conflicts with how you think dating and relationships work. Maybe this makes you uncomfortable. Maybe you want to dismiss it out of hand.
And that’s fair.
Y’see, as much as this may sound like it, this isn’t about my trying to justify my advice to people who don’t agree with me. It’s about change. Sometimes it’s about making a lot of changes, some of them at a fundamental level. One of the things I hear often, especially from guys with low levels of social experience is that I’m either asking too much of them or insisting that they have to change or hide aspects of themselves. As far as they’re concerned, some things are impossible. Others feel that that they shouldn’t have to give up so much of themselves.
So let me ask you – with total sincerity: Being yourself. How’s that working out for you so far?
