Dr. NerdLove is on vacation this week. Rather than just giving you nothing but dead air or running a “Best Of” column, I bring you this excellent guest post from my friend, confidant and occasional provider of much needed corrections: Kira.
When we left off on Part 1, we were talking about how to flirt with intent and send unambiguous signals to guys know that you’re interested. To recap:
1: Showing That You’re Interested –
The selective, toothy smile wherein your face lights up with interest and intrigue, followed up with classic eye-contact. Meet their gaze for two seconds, look away and look back with that slightly pleased, slightly shy smile. When you’re talking to them, use classic active-listening techniques to make sure that they know that you’re not just paying attention, but that you’re into what they’re saying.
2: The Strategic Ego Stroke –
Guys appreciate it when you make them feel good – we’re simple creatures after all. A well timed compliment with just a hint of pushing away will intrigue him. The push-pull/come here-go away dynamic keeps the ego appeal from being too cloying or seeming as though you’re trying too hard. Similarly, a carefully chosen moment of seeking his approval will make him feel both appreciated and desired. Even some carefully framed role reversal – making him have to win your approval will capture his attention… and his imagination.
And now that we’re all on the same page, it’s time for Kira to provide part 2 of Flirting With Intent – Advanced Flirting for Nerd Women…