I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will…
Archives for July 2012
On “Fake” Geek Girls
There’s been some grousing for a while about “fake” geek girls, girls who – gasp!, shock! – pretend to be geeks in order to get attention! As geek culture has been growing in influence and cultural significance, more people have taken notice of us. This, in turn means that more people are willing to market to…
Ask Dr. NerdLove: Love, Race and Dating
So both of today’s questions involve interracial dating, a subject that couldn’t POSSIBLY go wrong if and when I accidentally say something stupid! Now this is going to be a loaded topic, so I’m warning folks in advance: be cool in the comments. Or else. And if I happen to shove my foot in my…
What Is Chemistry? Part Two: Emotional Engagement
So we’re talking about chemistry – that ineffable “spark” that theoretically you either feel or you don’t when you meet someone. The idea of chemistry-as-fate, this moment when two compatible people meet has taken on the level of myth in our culture. It’s become another way of saying “love at first sight” or “soul mates”… the idea…
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What Is Chemistry? Part One: Building Sexual Tension
Ask anyone “What are some of the most important parts of a date?” and one of the most common answers you will get is “Chemistry”. Of course, when you ask them to describe chemistry, you’ll hear a mix of inconclusive – and fairly unhelpful – answers: “It’s… you know. That spark.” “That intensity.” “That feeling…” “That moment…
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Ask Dr. NerdLove: Dating While Broke
Doctor, I write to you today to ask for advice on dating women without much in the way of money. Before I come across as some kind of tightass I’ll explain my situation. I have been unemployed, with the odd stretch of a temporary position here and there lasting no more than two months, for…
