One of the most common complaints I hear about dating is “where are places that I can go to meet women that aren’t bars or clubs?” Over the years, meeting people at bars and nightclubs has taken on a distinct sheen of sleaze and ill repute, seemingly the sole province of Brohemians, pick-up artists, pushy, rowdy drunks and gaggles of attention-seeking women who will only deign to talk to the 1% Alpha Males with six-pack abs and seven figure incomes.
There are also some downsides.
Recently I started a thread on the Facebook page about just what it is people, my nerd brethren especially, dislike about trying to meet people at bars. It was interesting to say the least. The general consensus is that bars are loud, crowded, rowdy and full of drunks and jerks who have an attitude of “I’m going to get laid tonight and I don’t care with who or how,” and fair do’s: God knows I’ve been to plenty of bars like that.
That being said, however, I think people are too quick to write off bars as a valid place to meet other singles.
Back in my wilder days, I was a fixture on Austin’s bar and club scene, going out up to three or four nights a week before I burned out on the whole scene… and I have to admit: I learned over time that I hated trying to meet people in clubs. Just as everybody said on the thread: they’re absurdly loud, smokey, crowded and contain more dickholes than a urologist’s office after Mardi Gras. When the police shut down nearly half a dozen in the entertainment district for money laundering, drugs and weapon sales, I could have cared less.
But bars? Bars are a different story.
In fact, I would say that in many ways, by being quick to write off bars, people are cutting themselves off from a valid place to meet new people.