Archives for November 2016

Wednesday Open Thread: Live In Concert Edition

November 30, 2016 by Dr. NerdLove 6 Comments

It’s Wednesday, which means it’s time for the Doc to head out with his Hamilton tickets. Meanwhile the NerdLove interns and residents take over the comments section for their own nefarious purposes!

This week’s suggested topic: Last night I had the good fortune to go see Henry fuckin’ Rollins perform for a good 2 and a half hours non-stop.

There’s something inspiring about seeing amazing performances in person when you can instead of listening to your records or soundfiles. The best ones leave you feeling jazzed up and ready to do stuff. So I want to know: what are your favorite live performances? Whether it’s theater, a band, a comedian, whatever, let’s talk about the magic of seeing folks live and in person.

(Incidentally: everything I wrote about charisma on Monday? Henry does every single one of them)

You know the rules: no hate, no spam, no Michael Bolton.

Have fun!

5 Ways To Be More Charismatic – Instantly

November 28, 2016 by Dr. NerdLove 8 Comments

I want to talk to you about charisma and what it takes to be more charismatic. We’ve all seen those individuals who can command people’s attention and respect. They’re the folks who hold court at parties or who seem to be able to make friends instantly wherever they go. They have that “it” factor that makes people want to spend time with them. It’s something we all wish we had.

They may also have inspired you to wish you could skin them and take their place.

And we can. As with social success, people tend to assume that charisma is an inborn trait. Either you’re naturally charismatic or you’re not, and there’s nothing you can to do about it. In reality though, charisma isn’t about genetics or upbringing; it’s the culmination of several small factors that add up to making someone more magnetic and likable. People aren’t more charismatic because of an accident of birth but because of their habits. And if you learn to start adopting these habits, you can instantly raise your own charisma and be that charming person you’re envious of.

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Ask Dr. NerdLove: Should I Give Him Another Chance?

November 25, 2016 by Dr. NerdLove 73 Comments

Hey Doc,

I have been involved in a relationship for the past 7 yrs with a man to whom I kept at a distance for 5 of those years. Once he moved in with me I noticed he had a bad addiction to alcohol he worked, he helped with the bill’s and we were still close. We dance on the sidewalks, we sing together we play together the problem his drinking which spun out of control. I tend to believe that one can change. I was in the process of remodeling my home, his drinking was at a all time high he hit me swore he would never to do this again I believed him. Two months later when cooking in the kitchen the dark side took over he grabbed me by the hair threw me to the ground and choked me I could not breath I saw white and the feeling I was passing out and losing control. During this I bit his finger as hard as I could and pinched him until I drew blood. Once he let go I got up and had three blows to the back of my head.

Wow, this came from someone I loved. He was drunk off his ass and he did this to me. I called the police and had him arrested. He spent 3 months in jail. He is now in treatment and has not drank a drop since then. He is in therapy and doing great. We can speak on the phone, we can text but the courts have a partial no contact order.

My older kids have stated they will not speak with me if I give this man another chance. I love him, and he is doing great with rehab. He is one great person being sober I have known him since high school for over 30 plus years

Do you have any suggestions in this regard as I feel torn and confused.

Lisa’s Being Torn Apart

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Paging Dr. NerdLove Minisode #05 – Troubleshooting Your Love Life

November 24, 2016 by Dr. NerdLove 4 Comments

One of the biggest frustrations when it comes to learning how to date better are the times when it feels like nothing is working. It can feel like you’re putting in all that effort and going nowhere fast.

The Doc (@DrNerdLove) is here to show you how to find the mistakes you’re making that’s killing your game and teach you how to fix them, quickly and efficiently, including:

The single biggest mistake men make that keeps them from improving
The importance of “Do, or do not. There is no try.”
Why practice makes perfect
How to overcome confirmation bias and make sure that you’re focusing on the right problems
The importance of A/B testing your approach

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Wednesday Open Thread: Turkey Day Edition

November 23, 2016 by Dr. NerdLove 18 Comments

It’s Wednesday, which means it’s time for the Doc to pre-heat the oven and start making his world-famous smoked turkey. Meanwhile, the NerdLove interns and residents take over the comments section for their own nefarious purposes!

This week’s suggested topic:

Dude. It’s the day before Thanksgiving, which means it’s time to start thinking about food. Turkey, sweet potato soufflé, fresh baked bread hot from the oven and of course…

pie

So let’s talk turkey. And pie. And everything else. What are your Thanksgiving favorites? What’re you most looking forward to this year? And the eternal question: apple? Or pumpkin?

You know the rules. No hate, no spam, no tofurkey.

Have fun!