One of the topics that comes up the most often when it comes to dating advice is, paradoxically, the one that folks get wrong the most often: “what do women find attractive in men?” This is an evergreen subject (ahem), in no small part because of how often guys buy into mistaken ideas about what…
Archives for March 2021
How Do I Become More Attractive to Women?
Hi Doc, For the last month and a half or so, I went on some dates with a girl (who we’ll call L, for the purposes of this letter) who I met through Bumble. I really liked her, as we have similar tastes in music (which is uncommon among people my age), and it was…
Why Don’t I Want To Sleep With My Girlfriend?
Hello Dr. NerdLove: I’m a man in my early thirties. Growing up throughout my adolescence and, until I was around 25, I didn’t had any kind of sexual or even a casual relationship with any woman. I didn’t go to parties or any kind of social events, my job was menial and going nowhere and…
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How Can I Avoid Falling In Love With My Friend?
Heya Doc. This letter was spurred by your recent column about letting folks down gently. My question is related but separate: how do I keep a relationship platonic when the romantic interest is mutual? For some context: I’ve recently met this lovely person with whom I have a great deal in common, including stated romantic…
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What Does My Taste In Sex Partners Say About Me?
Doctor’s Note: today’s question deals with issues of race, white supremacy and sexuality. Needless to say: racist and homophobic comments are not welcome and the mods and I will be paying attention. Dear Dr. NerdLove: I’m a young gay man in his 20’s, and although I’ve had a sometimes rocky start to life (like many…
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Help, My Partner’s Anxiety Is Ruining His Life
Dear Dr. NerdLove, My partner is an adjunct instructor of Sociology at a local community college. He is a brilliant social scientist and a great teacher, but he is terrible at the bureaucratic side of things: he loses track of emails, has a crazy disorganized mess of files on his computer, and struggles to navigate online…
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