If you suffer from low confidence and low self-esteem, you may be familiar with the an effect I refer to as the Paradox of Confidence. It’s a self-esteem Catch-22; you don’t feel confident because you have no accomplishments to feel confident about. However, without having that confidence in the first place, you aren’t able to…
Archives for September 2021
How Do I Stop Setting Myself Up for Loneliness?
Hi Doc, I’m a student in my early 20s, and I have Aspergers/am on the autism spectrum. I’ve been dealing with a lot of conflicting thoughts and feelings when it comes to the state of my love life, or rather, the lack of one. I don’t quite have zero dating experience; I had a year…
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Do Women REALLY Only Like One Kind of Guy?
Ah, I see it’s that time of year again. Normally on Fridays, I run questions for Ask Dr. NerdLove and help you — and folks like you — solve your dating dilemmas. But occasionally… well, occasionally I get a letter that requires a much deeper dive than most. And then occasionally I get ones like…
How Do I Learn To Stop Overthinking My Love Life?
Hello Doctor NerdLove, I (33/Male) have been following your site for a while now and have found it enormously helpful in changing my outlook. For a long time I have had a very negative view of myself, based in part on a long struggle with being overweight, and I viewed any sort of non-platonic relationship…
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Ask Dr. NerdLove: Is This The Best Way To Get Out Of The Friend Zone?
Hey Doc, hope this finds you well. I’m a 33 year old man and I’m writing with regards to a recent experience with a girl who has placed me seemingly firmly in the Friend Zone. I’d like your insight and suggestions as to what best course of action may be, as I’m aware that anything…
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Can This Broken Friendship Still Be Fixed?
Hello Doc, Longtime reader here, first time writer and not a native English speaker so please excuse any mistakes. You sometimes tackle the topic of friendships instead of romantic love so I wanted to get an outsider’s perspective on my situation. For context, I (29/f) attended private schools throughout my childhood thanks to different scholarship,…