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Greetings Dr. Nerdlove
I’m a 16 year old Asian geek with a condition. And by condition,I mean 211 lbs of fat all over my body. I’m not *exactly* like your stereotypical “comic-book-guy from The Simpsons” nerd; I socialize, I hang out with my friends, I can (by geek standards) talk to girls, just not in a flirty kind of way. I just don’t move very much. I usually just sit on the couch and watch TV and movies all day. And i’m as comfortable and proud with my weight as the next guy, but Jesus Christ is it hard to be fat. I try so hard to excrete less sweat, just so that i wouldn’t smell so fucking bad. I slouch slightly when i walk and wear baggy clothes just to hide my *cough*rather big*cough* moobs. And I did all this just so that a girl, ANY girl would actually recognize me as an attractive fellow that she wants to have a relationship with, and not just the “lovable, wise-cracking, fat” friend. Lovable my goddamn ass.
I admit, there were some girls who kind of were attracted to me at some point. At least i think they were. Anyway, one of these girls used to tell me constantly that she would date me, or at least go out with me, if i was just a little bit thinner. I don’t know if she was trying to let me down easy or what. I’ve always wanted to tell her that i didn’t need her pity, but whatever.
Anyway, getting back to my question, should i get off my ass and start working out, and change the way i look, and the way i usually do things, just for the sake of meeting someone that would eventually go out with me ?
You shouldn’t start exercising for someone else. You should start exercising for yourself. You say that you’re comfortable, but you mention you have sweat and odor issues and you try to hide your physique with baggy clothes (which really doesn’t help, by the way) and slouching. That tells me you’re not terribly happy with the state of things.
You don’t have to hit the gym and become a complete body Nazi, but a proper diet and regular exercise will do you a world of good – both in terms of improving your health and your self-esteem. Start off slowly; just walking to start with and slowly moving your way up to other forms of exercise. As you build up your endurance, you may either want to look into joining a gym and working with a trainer, or trying a program such as Couch to 5K. Losing weight will help with your physical issues and the endorphins will do great things to your peace of mind. Not worrying about what others think about your moobs or whether your deodorant is keeping pace with you will build back your self-esteem and those girls you mentioned before will come flocking like they hadn’t before.
And frankly? There’s nothing quite like former-fat-guy revenge sex. Just sayin’.
Good luck.
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