Earlier this year, I made the mistake of misinterpreting a coworker’s behavior for affection and told her I had feelings for her. She shot me down after 2+ months of silent treatment. I have Asperger’s Syndrome and must cope with social anxiety. So, I’m in the “Friends Zone” or some other form of limbo, which a part of me can accept. But that and just the stress of having a high-anxiety job and trying to interpret others’ behavior made me sort of “shut down” and defriend her and other coworker/friends on Facebook. She’s kind of high-anxiety, too, (though not an “Aspy”) and understands.
You’re a doctor of love and not psychology, but I was wondering what tips you have for dealing with the stress of interacting on a regular basis with someone you had feelings for. Especially when you’re in a situation when you’re forced to rely on each other to succeed in a 60-hour a week job. Other than finding other prospects, which I’m in the process of doing.
Or, what advice do you have to suspend that part of yourself that makes you question your behavior/ perceptions and the behavior of others?
Any tips for relaxation you can offer would be greatly appreciated.