911! Dear Doctor NerdLove,
I have been dating this guy for about 8 months now; our relationships is very honest and open. Sorry, I meant it WAS honest and open until 5days ago. We seemed to have such a strong relationship that we thought we were ready to have a three -some. Picking the right person is important so we talked about some candidates & one girl stood out from the rest. He wanted her, I didn’t mind but I was still thinking about it. Anyways, one morning I decided to get her number so that I can get to know her better, learn to trust her. He was in the shower and he always gives me permission to use his phone…
So knowing that my boyfriend texted her the other day (he told me he was texting her) I went into his messages to get her number..opened the message..and saw naked photos. Confused on how this happened, I decide to read the messages. She sent him a topless photo of herself, then she asked for a full nude photo of him; he replied with two (NOT ONE, TWO) nude photos. Then the messages stopped. I assume he sent two because he wanted more. Later that night I asked him about it and he had no excuse, understand that it was wrong, and that I have all the right to be angery. When I asked him if he was going to stop it or ever tell me about this he said” I never thought about. No, I wouldn’t of told you. I was kind of hiding it from you.”
Dr. NerdLove what do I do now? He knows I’m hurt and can’t trust him but is sextxting cheating? Should I end it? How can I work this out or trust him again? PLEASE throw me any advice I would appreciate it a lot.
HOPELESSLY LOST –
One of Three