Dr. NerdLove, This will probably needs some context. First, I’m polyamorous; I’m married, have a long-term girlfriend, and still occasionally go out with new people. Everyone knows and consents, it’s all ethically done, and it’s going great. The second important part is that I was raised in the evangelical tradition of purity culture; more specifically…
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How Does He Learn To Be Single Again?
Dear Doc, I’m about to turn 35, and find myself single after 12 years of being in a relationship. My ex and I met in college on a study abroad, and were friends (with benefits) for many months before we became exclusive. That friendship developed, evolved, and after six years of dating (four living together)…
How Do I Tell Someone She’s My Backup Girlfriend?
Hey Dr. NerdLove, First of all, you’ve written amazing articles on your website. Because if you, I’ve had a lot more dating success. Keep up the great work. My question is very “First world problem”. I’ve been dating a particular woman on and off (let’s call her H) during the last year. Meanwhile, I’ve gone…
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He’s Tired of One Night Stands. How Does He Start Finding Relationships?
Dear Dr. NerdLove: 3 and a half years ago, I used to suck at relationships. I was not the nicest person to be around, being selfish, entitled, needy… the whole package. My relationships, if any, never lasted more than 3 months and almost always ended up in the other person ghosting me, and since I…
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Her Best Friend Is Starting to Become an Incel. What Can She Do?
I’m seeking some advise regarding a good friend of mine who I’m worried about. Some background detail: I’m a woman in my mid 20’s, married. My friend, “Tom”, is a man in his mid 20’s who has serious issues with women. Tom and I grew up together. Now, Tom has never been the best at…
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Was His Girlfriend Cheating On Him With Her Toxic Ex?
Dear Dr. NerdLove: My girlfriend says she was emotionally abused by her ex boyfriend. He had anger and jealousy issues. He would isolate her and dictate the activities they would do together. He would even say hurtful things to her like that she’s not marriage material or that she’ll be alone forever. They dated for…
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