Help me, Doc,
I’m not sure if I’ve just lost what seemed to be shaping up to be a really good friend. I am 22yo, She is 24yo
She’s a girl I met in a class about a year or so ago when the both of us were in school, after our class finished we stayed friendly but we would only see each other once in a (long) while. Long story short, I move out of town, I move back, time passes and (maybe a month ago, not sure) we are beginning to hang out more often. I wouldn’t say we were “close” but recently we were getting closer as we were helping each other with things here and there and finding a lot of enjoyment spending time together as friends.
I had spoken to her just over a week ago and told her that i was attracted to her but she told me that she was currently in a “friends with benefits” kind of situation with another individual and there were perhaps thoughts to get more serious.That and another reason or two was why our relationship wouldn’t be going past friendship; not what i wanted but hey its not the end of the world either. So one evening a few days later we’re hanging out again, I’d accepted that I was in the friend zone and had no plans or expectations for things to move past that. However, after a few drinks it just so happens that we ended up having sex.
I’m fairly confident it was a pleasant experience for the both of us that night, however the morning after although things weren’t bad I didn’t get the feeling that everything was okay. I’m aware that this was a mistake and a lot that wasn’t supposed to happen, happened real fast; as such I imagine she’s going to want some space and some time to herself. Its been about four days since that night at the time I’m sending this and I haven’t heard anything from her. I don’t want to hassle her with calls/texts but I also don’t want to stay so silent that she might think I’m oblivious and or don’t care.
Thus I ask, should I expect to be able to salvage our friendship? and how should I go about doing so?