I had a good, long think after reading your recent post about what it is I want; in a girl, in a relationship and so on. I’ve pretty much known what kind of girl I’m attracted to but your words helped me solidify my thoughts and for that I thank you.
Personally, I’m attracted to tomboys; you know, the girls who delve more into male activities than female. Perhaps I find this attractive because I find it easier to relate but nonetheless, it’s what I like. I want my girl to be outgoing and adventurous to somewhat counterbalance my introverted nature. I want to find a girl who likes to talk about anything and everything; have stimulating conversations or just bullshit for hours. That’s just a small overview.
Now, as I’ve found out, very few girls like this exist. Most girls my age (I am currently 20) have grown out of the tomboy phase. The ones who are, however, are already taken. Pretty much any girl that I’ve thought was perfect for me was either clearly not interested or taken. Now, I’ve tried dating sites before (OkCupid, as you suggested) and explicitly stated what kind of girl I’d like but unfortunately, I’ve had little to no luck. While it would be amazing to finally find that perfect girl, I can’t help but think that perhaps I’ve idealized her too much.
What do you think, Doctor? Have I idealized my perfect girl so much that I’ve made my standard impossibly high for any good girl to reach or should I hold out hope that I’ll fine my dream girl some day?