We all want to have an amazing relationship. The problem is that most of us go about it the wrong way. See, one of the mistakes we make when it comes to relationships is that we tend to assume there’s one way to have them. We accept the default mode without thinking about it. Worse: we rarely talk about what we expect from a relationship until after it’s started to fall apart.
The mistake is that – once we’ve chosen our partner – we tend to assume the work is done. The credits are going to roll and everything else is going to be sitcom-esque bliss, complete with laugh tracks and neighbors with curious ideas about boundaries. Then, three fights later about cake batter and alternate uses for pastry bags, and your slice of Heaven has turned into a new layer of Hell.
When we let relationships just “happen”, we increase the likelihood of conflict and ugly break-ups. But by taking the time in the beginning of a relationship, we can build the love affair of our dreams.