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Episode #100 – Is She Flirting or Just Being Friendly?

November 21, 2018 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

How do you tell the difference between when someone’s flirting with you and just being polite? And why are we so bad at telling the two apart in the first place?

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:

  • How men and women both misjudge flirting behavior in others
  • Why “Straight Dude Thinking” gets in the way of flirting success
  • Why we confuse parasocial relationships for genuine interest
  • How to recognize the signs that someone is flirting with you
  • The number one key to recognizing that someone is interested… and not just being friendly.

 

RELATED LINKS:

  • Ask Dr. NerdLove: What’s the Difference Between Flirting and Just Being Friendly?
  • Read Her Signs (Without Reading The Tea Leaves)
  • Fix Your Flirting
  • How To Get Women To Approach You
  • 5 Signs Women Want You To Approach Them

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Filed Under: Podcasts, Skills Tagged With: are you flirting with me, emotional intelligence, find your flirting style, flirting, flirting mistakes, how to tell if she's flirting, is she flirting, podcast, podcasts, social calibration, the friend zone, youtube

Paging Dr. NerdLove Episode #51 – 5 Steps To Creating An Instant Connection

October 26, 2017 by Dr. NerdLove 31 Comments

Do you have have that friend who seems to just connect with people. They can roll up on strangers and end up with new best friends and dates. And you… can’t.

It doesn’t seem fair, does it? These people can stumble into any social situation and come out like they rolled 18 on their charisma and then there’s you: the unfrozen caveman who suddenly doesn’t know how to word gooder. To make matters worse: you could do and say the exact same thing that they do and get blank stares. 

It’s not because they have “it” and you don’t. It’s because of charismatic people understand why we like others and how to create that connection. And you can learn how to create it as well.

Show Highlights:

  • The #1 mistake people make in trying to forge a connection with others
  • The most important part of building your social skills
  • How your beliefs shape your ability to connect with others
  • Why you’re ruining your own efforts to get other people to like you
  • The single factor that will make you more appealing and desirable than anyone else

…and so much more.

Related Links:

5 Ways To Be More Charismatic, Instantly

How To Be Charming

5 Secrets To Make People Like You

Be More Approachable

The Most Attractive Aspect of A Man (Isn’t Looks or Money)


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Filed Under: Podcasts, Skills Tagged With: charisma, how to be charming, instant charisma, Meeting Women, podcasts, self-improvement, youtube

Paging Dr. NerdLove Episode #50 – The Truth Behind “Secret” Seduction Techniques

October 19, 2017 by Dr. NerdLove 129 Comments

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Do you want to learn the secret to getting amazing, beautiful women to fall in love with you? You probably hear about these tricks all the time from experts and gurus. And you’re probably thinking “yeah right, this could never work”.

And that’s where you’re right. But not for the reasons you think. Those seduction techniques work alright… but it’s all about who it’s working on and how. This week, we’re going to talk about the short cuts and magic bullets marketed to lonely men and who’s actually doing the seducing.

Show Highlights:

  • What’s the story behind all those affiliate marketing emails?
  • The history of “mind-control” in the seduction community
  • Marketing panic attacks as a tool for seduction
  • Who’s actually seducing whom
  • Why magic feathers and secret seduction techniques are bad for everyone

…and so much more.

Related Links:

Short Cuts and Magic Bullets

The Economics of Sex

Five Secrets To Fix Your Love Life

Leveling Up: How To Get Women To Approach You

No More Magic Feathers: The Secret to Real Self-Improvement


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Filed Under: Pick-Up Artistry, Podcasts, Sex, Skills Tagged With: lifehack, marketing, mind-control, mindhack, podcasts, psychology, seduction, sex, youtube

The Secret to Getting Laid (Without Losing Your Soul)

June 19, 2017 by Dr. NerdLove 286 Comments

Modern dating has a number of benefits. Changing social mores mean that sex and dating are less complicated and more accessible than at any point in history. The advent of the Internet and the subsequent development of smartphones mean that finding people you’re interested in is easier than ever. Even simply wanting to get laid has become easier with apps like Tinder making finding someone who’s explicitly down to fuck a literal push-button exercise.

But while accessibility and availability may be easier… the process of actually getting sex can feel more complicated than ever. If you’re an even half-way decent guy, it can feel like wanting sex or trying to get it makes you awful by definition. After all, most of the modern examples of men trying to get laid tend to revolve around toxic environments and behaviors. Pop culture is rife with characters – including protagonists – who will cheerfully resort to any amount of shitty behavior in order to get laid.  Even in real life, we only have to look to pick-up artists and their misogynistically frustrated evolved form, the Red Pill,1 selling social pressure and psychological trickery as the means to the end.

At the same time, we can go on Twitter, Tumblr and Facebook and see women sharing stories about men who used unpleasant or even threatening actions in an attempt to get into their pants.

And then there’re the guys who just leap straight to the “Diiiick?” stage.

 

There’s nothing wrong with wanting sex, with wanting a casual relationship without commitment or wanting to have multiple partners. The key to getting more sex isn’t about secret techniques or trying to convince, trick or compel women into sleeping with you. Sex isn’t an antagonistic exercise of trying to bargain down the “price”, it’s in understanding how to connect with people. If you want to learn about getting laid without losing your soul in the process, you have to understand the mindset of a true seducer.

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Filed Under: Level Up, Sex, Skills Tagged With: getting laid, level up, seduction, self-improvement, sex, skill

What Women Wish Men Knew About Good Sex

May 8, 2017 by Dr. NerdLove 191 Comments

Good sex and sexual satisfaction is an important part of maintaining a happy relationship. Unfortunately, it’s also something that many straight couples struggle with. In fact, a study published in Archives of Sexual Behavior found that heterosexual women had the fewest orgasms. The study, conducted by The Kinsey Institute, Indiana University and Chapman University found that while 98% of heterosexual men achieved orgasm during sex, only 65% of heterosexual women did. Meanwhile, 89% of gay men, 86% of gay women and 88% of bi men. Bi women came in second to last at 66%.

Three cheers for checking reproducibility in the name of scientific rigor.

For many women, this was a “no duh” moment. After all, as scientists have confirmed before: one of the primary reasons why women aren’t into casual sex is that, well, straight dudes kind of suck in bed.  And the sad truth is: it doesn’t take that much to be a legend in bed… if you just pay a little attention.

Here is a little of what women wish guys knew about sex.

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Filed Under: Sex, Skills Tagged With: be a better lover, communication, good sex, sex, skills

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