Here’s a nostalgia hit for my long, long-time readers: the LEOG Christmas Carol, with art by Nate Bliss and colors by Grant Davis. Can you identify all the League members and guests? 
Happy Holidays! No New Column This Week…
Hey all, just a quick programming note: because of the holiday season, travel, etc. there won’t be a new column this week. I’ll rerun a couple of old favorites on Wednesday and Friday, and there’ll be a lighter schedule for the last week of the year. Normal service will resume January 3rd, 2021.
In the meantime, if you have questions about love, sex and dating that you want answered as we enter into a new year, be sure to send in your dating questions to the Ask Dr. NerdLove submission form. And from me to each and every one of you: have a happy and joyous holiday season and a happy new year!
Programing Note For 11/22 – 11/26 (And A Holiday Meal Open Thread)
Hey all! Just wanted to let everyone know: since I’ll be traveling to see family for Thanksgiving, there’ll be no columns this week. We’ll resume normal publication schedule on Monday, November 29th, with another brief hiatus during the week for Christmas.
Now, since I know the holidays can be a rough time for folks, I want to invite you all to send in your holiday-related questions, whether it’s dealing with dating, relationships, family or feeling the Singles Blues during the holiday season. Send your questions in via the Ask Dr. NerdLove submission form, or email it to me at doc@doctornerdlove.com with “Holiday Question” in the subject header.
In the meantime, this week, we’re bringing back the Open Thread with the suggested topic of Favorite Holiday Meals. What are your favorite holiday food traditions? Are there particular dishes or side-dishes or desserts that scream THIS! IS! THE HOLIDAYS! to you? Share your thoughts, experiences and very wrong opinions about stuffing in the comments.
If you’re in the US, have a lovely Thanksgiving and try not to go berserk on Black Friday. If you’re not, have a lovely week and watch with grim amusement as Americans turn this Friday into The (Capitalist) Hunger Games.
Catch y’all on the flipside!
How Do I Find Casual Sex When I’m This Ugly?
Dear Dr. NerdLove:
So I was wondering how does an ugly guy navigate things like wanting casual sex or a friends with benefits kind of arrangement? A lot of these interactions tend to prioritize looks, but what if you don’t have the looks? I don’t know any examples of ugly guys getting anything casual, it seems like one of those things where if you don’t have the looks, then you’re kind of out of luck.
I am trying to lose weight and gain muscle, but you can’t exactly change your face as much as you can your body. What if, even after that, I’m still unattractive? How would I communicate and vocalize wanting something more casual or a friend with benefits arrangement without it being creepy? How would someone like me be able to find someone who wants me sexually when there are probably more handsome men out there who also want the same thing. There are probably more men who want something casual than women, so wouldn’t that make it even more likely that ugly guys won’t be able to have something casual if there is a better looking guy willing to provide the same thing?
It feels like women would rather only have me if I commit rather than be casual with me when there are possibly better looking men wanting the same thing? Same for women who are “in my league” so to speak.
You can’t exactly “fuck” a personality as they say.
Also in general, it looks like it’s mostly guys who have trouble getting laid, so wouldn’t that also lend credence to the fact that maybe there are some guys out there too ugly to be wanted sexually?
It just feels like I won’t be able to experience casual sex or FWBs and will only be able to sleep with women if I commit to them or if I hire a sex worker. I don’t wanna lead women on or lie to them, but I also don’t wanna sleep with someone who’d only sleep with me cause they need the money.
Any advice?
Thing From Another World
No column today…
Seeing as Trump followers are rioting in DC at the moment, it seems a little crass to put up a column today. The usual Wednesday column will go up either tomorrow or Friday, depending on how things shake out.
