On occasion, I’ll get a request for advice on a situation that’s more layered and complex than a typical Ask Dr. NerdLove question. These questions typically need a deeper dive into just what went wrong, a sort of exploratory emotional surgury – a dating Post-Mortem if you will. On other occasions, the circumstances require more than just…
What Not To Do
Can We Learn How To Date from Games?
Hey NerdLovers: I’m right in the middle of moving into the new office/studio, which means that there isn’t going to be a new podcast this week. But I don’t want to leave you all hanging, which is why I’m going to do something special. This Sunday, I’ll be doing a livestream hangout on YouTube, finishing…
No, Micro-Cheating Isn’t A Thing
Every day it seems as though there’s a new “trend” in the world of dating that’s meant to panic us all. Whether it’s “cuffing season”, “backburnering”, “roaching”1 or some other cutesy Millennial-sounding name, there’s a flurry of articles to tell us all to watch out for it. And now there’s “micro-cheating”. I was blissfully unaware…
The Difference Between Flirting and Harassment
As the revelations of sexual harassment, abusers and general shitbags rolls on, so to does the inevitable pushback to the #metoo movement. And while there have always been people who insist that we’re creating a culture where any sort of flirting might be mistaken for harassment and an innocent gesture might end a well-meaning man’s…
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How To Not Be The Office Creep
Over the last week, more reports about Harvey Weinstein’s history of sexual assault, harassment and coercion have dominated headlines in the news and conversations on Twitter. One of those conversations happened to revolve around the Buzzfeed article “What To Do With ‘Shitty Media Men’?” which discussed an anonymous Google spreadsheet being shared that named men…
This Is Why Women Won’t Date You
Last Tuesday, The Federalist – a conservative news organization that seems to devote at least a third of its coverage to lamenting that women won’t sleep with them – decided to publish the hottest of hot takes: that women who refuse to give it up to conservatives are why Trump won. And to be fair: he’s…