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Paging Dr. NerdLove Episode #40 – How To Write A Perfect Online Dating Message

August 10, 2017 by Dr. NerdLove 23 Comments

Maybe this has happened to you: you get a match on Tinder or find someone on OKCupid who seems to be absolutely perfect for you. You message them… and get absolutely nothing in return. Or you might have a conversation that peters out within two to three exchanges or you’re left with shorter and shorter replies that take longer and longer to arrive.

This has been the experience of a lot of men when it comes to online dating. And it can be incredibly frustrating to feel like you’re putting in all that effort for absolutely no return and have no idea why.

More often than not, it’s because you’re slipping up in one critical area – your first message doesn’t tweak their interest. Your first message to somebody on a dating site is going to be what makes someone decide whether they want to take a chance on talking to you, so you need to know how to make it count.

Show Highlights:

  • Why a perfect online dating profile isn’t enough
  • Understanding the dynamics of online dating
  • Why women quit responding
  • What makes a perfect first message
  • The mistake most guys make that cost them dates

…and so much more.

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