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Paging Dr. NerdLove Episode #46 – The Truth About Nice Guys

September 21, 2017 by Dr. NerdLove 237 Comments

Stop me if you’ve heard this one before: you’re talking with someone you’re into, and you think it’s going well when she says the dread phrase: “I wish I could meet a nice guy like you.”

And you’re thinking to yourself “Well… I’m nice! Why aren’t you dating me?”

But for all the times you hear a woman say she wishes she could find a nice guy, you also hear about how nice guys are THE WORST. And during all this, you see her going off and dating a complete asshole. So clearly she’s lying about what she wants, right?

Wrong. So, what’s the deal here?

Well… a lot of it is about understanding the nature of relationships and how attraction works. And the rest… is about who’s the real jerk here.

Show Highlights:

  • What women really mean when they say they want to find a nice guy
  • Why assholes have the advantage over nice guys
  • The reason why “nice” isn’t enough
  • The secret to why women hate Nice Guys

…and so much more.

Related Links:

The Problem with “Nice Guys”

What Bad Boys Know That Nice Guys Don’t

Being “Nice” Isn’t Good Enough

The Science of Nice Guys and Assholes

Entitlement, Nerds and Neanderthals

 

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