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Paging Dr. Nerdlove Episode #55 – How To Create A Powerful, Instant Connection With Anyone

November 23, 2017 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

How many times have you had a conversation that went something like this: you think you’ve been doing well, but as soon as you’re done talking, that’s it and they’ve basically forgotten you exist. This is a common sticking point for a lot of men. 

Part of what makes one person pleasant but forgettable and the other magnetic is all about that connection, that sense of “we’ve just met but I’ve known you forever”. That feeling of “there’s just something about you that really appeals to me.” These are the sorts of moments that lead people to believe in soulmates.

But here’s the dirty little secret: you can do this deliberately. While yes, this sort of connection can happen by chance, when you understand why we connect with people, you can actually build that connection by choice.

Show Highlights:

  • What is the single biggest mistake people make in trying to connect with people?
  • How to keep the conversation flowing smoothly
  • Why we feel like we’ve known people forever, even though we’ve just met 
  • Why similarity is so important in building a connection

…and so much more

Related Links:

The Subtle Things That Make A Man More Attractive – https://www.doctornerdlove.com/subtle-things-make-men-attractive/

Make The Right First Impression – https://www.doctornerdlove.com/make-right-first-impression/

How To Be Charming – https://www.doctornerdlove.com/how-to-be-charming/

5 Body Language Tricks That Increase Attraction – https://www.doctornerdlove.com/5-body-language-tricks-that-increase-attraction/

5 Ways To Boost Your Charisma – https://www.doctornerdlove.com/5-boost-charisma/

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